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Fearful that my difficult child has become the Identified Patient
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 625643" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>I also think my easy child/difficult child blames difficult child for all the family issues.</p><p> </p><p>On the other side I can honestly say that in my family I was the "Identified Patient."</p><p> </p><p>I remember when my mother first started getting sick and we went to family counseling together. I was pregnant and 19 and miserable. Basically living with a friends family because moms mental health and drama was too much to deal with on top of a pregnancy. Anyway the therapist would sit us all down in the room and blame me for everything. I felt like the lowest of the low. I refused to go back after a few appointments and that made me even worse.</p><p> </p><p>About 8 years later that same therapist apologized to me. I think everyone thought because my graduation from highschool, drop out of college, and teen pregnancy all happened around the same time my mom got mentally ill that it was my fault. 20+ years later it is pretty dang clear that it wasn't me it was her mental issues.</p><p> </p><p>Not that I didn't share some of the blame for the stress but I wasn't the disease I was just a stressor for the disease.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 625643, member: 15473"] I also think my easy child/difficult child blames difficult child for all the family issues. On the other side I can honestly say that in my family I was the "Identified Patient." I remember when my mother first started getting sick and we went to family counseling together. I was pregnant and 19 and miserable. Basically living with a friends family because moms mental health and drama was too much to deal with on top of a pregnancy. Anyway the therapist would sit us all down in the room and blame me for everything. I felt like the lowest of the low. I refused to go back after a few appointments and that made me even worse. About 8 years later that same therapist apologized to me. I think everyone thought because my graduation from highschool, drop out of college, and teen pregnancy all happened around the same time my mom got mentally ill that it was my fault. 20+ years later it is pretty dang clear that it wasn't me it was her mental issues. Not that I didn't share some of the blame for the stress but I wasn't the disease I was just a stressor for the disease. [/QUOTE]
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