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<blockquote data-quote="lovemyson1" data-source="post: 647570" data-attributes="member: 16643"><p>Good afternoon dear friends. As always you have comforted me with your words and read my mind. I am so distraught at the guilt of turning him away. I just have such a hard time with the guilt I feel when I'm not comforting him, feeding him, giving him a warm bed. He has a place to stay and a job, but keeps saying he feels overwhelmed and wants our help to get caught up. That being said, he's currently broke because he's been "using" the past few weeks. My husband started out gentle, & compassionate and is slowly getting super angry at the thought of him making the decision to use again! After everything we've been through, all the money spent, getting him out of jail, treatment programs, ugh!!! I'm beyong frustrated. I love what you said, Susiestar, about his goal should not be to come back home. Wow, that really sinks in. You are so so right. He is completely capable, especially if he gets and stays clean. At this point, I'm not sure what to say to him. I want to say, "I will completely support you in doing right. But I will not support you in doing wrong." And leave it at that. My husband is so tore up today and hasn't slept the last 2 nights. I feel like this is straining our relationship. I'm going to read the articles you sent me "2much" and thanks for the love Origami. Thank you everyone!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemyson1, post: 647570, member: 16643"] Good afternoon dear friends. As always you have comforted me with your words and read my mind. I am so distraught at the guilt of turning him away. I just have such a hard time with the guilt I feel when I'm not comforting him, feeding him, giving him a warm bed. He has a place to stay and a job, but keeps saying he feels overwhelmed and wants our help to get caught up. That being said, he's currently broke because he's been "using" the past few weeks. My husband started out gentle, & compassionate and is slowly getting super angry at the thought of him making the decision to use again! After everything we've been through, all the money spent, getting him out of jail, treatment programs, ugh!!! I'm beyong frustrated. I love what you said, Susiestar, about his goal should not be to come back home. Wow, that really sinks in. You are so so right. He is completely capable, especially if he gets and stays clean. At this point, I'm not sure what to say to him. I want to say, "I will completely support you in doing right. But I will not support you in doing wrong." And leave it at that. My husband is so tore up today and hasn't slept the last 2 nights. I feel like this is straining our relationship. I'm going to read the articles you sent me "2much" and thanks for the love Origami. Thank you everyone! [/QUOTE]
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