hi,
andy well one thing i've learned with-this hospitalization is to be calm, really calm, and when i have a gripe i vent my craziness on here yet i handle myself with them very matter of fact and non emotional. so throwing a fit wont' get me anywhere i'll just be viewed like "pyscho Mom" and up till now their amazed at how i'm handling this. Not that "that" matters yet it's highly important for difficult child that i remain on task, super calm, and when i have complaints to make them quietly away from difficult child so she doesnt' see me disagree with the program.
iv'e come to learn as difficult child that each nurse has their own thing, all diff. personalities. we really like most of them. so we have been lucky. yet this woman last nite is just doing it for the paycheck you could tell. i will be letting the doctor know when she gets here what really went down last night and how there seems to be a huge disconnect with the food being delivered to the rooms. as a mom in this it seems silly to try to refeed a kid like mine who hasnt' really eaten in 7 mos. a cold dish of food that has been sitting at the nurses station for 45 min.. thought should be let's make it as appealing as possible.
they dont' portion it out because they try to make it as realistic and life like as they can. so that when a kid does return home there are no well mom i dont' like this will you make me that kinda stuff going on which is in essence a kid still giving problems at dinner time.
the nurse bringing the phone in when i was gone was a definite slick move on her part. so yea i'll be sharing how Ms. thing was downstairs talking to what looked to be her boyfriend when i was at the ronald mcdonald house getting clothes out of a drier and she was difficult child's nurse. she had just gotten on also. like give me a break. we all have lives yet that is just ridiculous. this is a trauma one hospital and you don't take breaks in parking lot ten min. after shift begins.
it was just unneeded drama. im like listen i've been here 14 days by myself, alone with my kid don't mess with me lol.
age of kids well to be honest all teenagers mostly, one other kid difficult child's age. yet they all and i mean all have aneroxia and bullimia. difficult child's the only kid with food phobia going into the day program or here admitted into the hospital. so i'm sure difficult child will not mesh well in the day program.
i would like to think that the structure, therapy etc there would assist with her other issues. yet fact is she will present as she does with normal school and normal changes in her life. anxiety ridden, not adhereing, etc. so i'm going to begin getting my after care providers in line after we leave here so when i get back to new york i am not scramling on any level at all.
if i see sustained eating with-o need for liquid with every bite and no forcing meals and she's pushing for more food i'll head home. there's no point to be here than. i dont' think the fear's totally gone yet. yet difficult child gets aggrivated because she wanted to be able to have peer support yet her problems so unique that she wont' in the way in which she'd like to.
i thought at home a new therapist cbt person to help her with her anxiety issues, a new pyschiatrist she'll need also. i am giong to be in the medication game in a mos after i leave here unless i can convince them to allow me to wean down slower. we also are going to continue home schooling once back yet see if we can help difficult child connect with a few decent kids she knew prior.
it doesn't seem right after all she's been thru to throw her into school with only a handful of mos left to go i also dont' want to risk this returning