Ok so after recent events where difficult child told me to F*** off on a public forum my husband contacted my father and let him know if was not acceptable and that if it continued there would be consequences. Of course my father supported difficult child and told us we were overreacting. Needless to say this did not make me happy so when he called to say he was coming to my house to pick something up I went shopping so I didn't have to see him. I'm sure it ****** him off because he probably wanted to see me and easy child but I am tired of pretending and right now all I want to do is scream at him. My mother has her own tactics for trying to talk to me or see me. She likes to message me and my brother on Facebook with sayings about how she loves her children and wants to be a good mom. I just ignore them. She also emails me on occasion with info on difficult child's activities. I respond back with as little information as possible. Her most recent request is that we come down for difficult child's prom . I told her we would be there for pictures. I had plans to show up for the pics and leave since any time I try to spend time with difficult child or my parents it causes an arguement. I figured the least amount of time together the smoother the day goes for everyone. Of course mom emails back and says that my father and she would like us to spend some time at their house. I politely declined saying we did not feel comfortable there and we would simply attend the picture time. I am sure all hell is going to break lose now. What ticks me off worse than all that though is that she keeps calling easy child and going into this poor pitiful me thing where she says "I can't make you love me" and "I can't make you spend time with me." It freaking infuriates me because who the hell puts that kind of **** on the shoulders of a 13 year old kid? Plus it just makes easy child dread talking to her and dread spending time with her. I am not going to force my child to be subjected to that ****. If she wants to spend time with them she can but if she choses to spend the time with my Aunt instead I am not going to argue. I feel for my parents I really do. I know they think they are doing the right thing and probably feel like I am being ridiculous by avoiding them. They probably feel like I am trying to keep easy child from them even though I have never done that. I have always supported them having a relationship even now after all this ****. I am sure they are hurting because they are slowly losing me and easy child since we are moving across the country this summer. On the other hand I am pi$$ed at them! They have difficult child with them and have essentially ruined that relationship for me. Its her senior year and I am missing it. My brother doesn't want to talk about it and avoids it at all costs. They have said things that are very hurtful about my parenting. I feel like I have lost a family and right now I am hurting too badly to make myself a target for whatever else they decide to throw at me.