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<blockquote data-quote="ROE" data-source="post: 37915" data-attributes="member: 2276"><p>I know what it feels like to be "the bad guy" all of the time. Have you talked to husband about how you feel? It's important for you to be on the same page-perhaps compromising will bring you both to that point. </p><p></p><p>Regarding the incident at school on Friday, I wouldn't stay focused on difficult child's "nothing happened" attitude. I think that is a common response with difficult child's. While it's important, to redirect negative behavior there's no sense in beating a dead horse either. When something like this happens, I would address it, but tread lightly. Chances are difficult child already heard numerous lectures from school, and husband. By the time difficult child got home-the subject is old-and already forgotten about. If you feel it's a situation that he should be disciplined for, talk to husband about it, decide on an appropriate consequence and implement it. It never did me any good to address a particular incident over and over. Once my difficult child suffered the consequence (sometimes it was only the natural consequence and not an additional one) of his inappropriate actions, it's over-time to move on. </p><p></p><p>Try not to blame yourself for difficult child's actions. You sound like a parent who is constantly trying to do the right thing. By now you know that difficult child's and easy child's are not wired the same. What worked for one is not necessarily going to work for the other. You question whether medications will help your difficult child. I see that he is taking several. What was he like without the medications? and there is your answer. medications., like therapy, are a tool not a cure. </p><p></p><p></p><p>While your difficult child is intellectually advanced, emmotionally he's still 12. My difficult child is 16, maturity,which seems to be coming slowly but surely, has brought about some positive changes. Hang in there your difficult child has a lot of growing up to do yet.</p><p></p><p>I've responded to a few of your posts now. You sound understandably frustrated, and depressed. Do you think your AD needs to be adjusted? I hope I didn't just step over the line. I am not implying that all the things that are going on in your life are not legitmate reasons to be frustrated and depressed. I know how hard it is parent a difficult child especially when you feel this way. I've been there too. </p><p></p><p>Be good to yourself. Make some time and do something just for you.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ROE, post: 37915, member: 2276"] I know what it feels like to be "the bad guy" all of the time. Have you talked to husband about how you feel? It's important for you to be on the same page-perhaps compromising will bring you both to that point. Regarding the incident at school on Friday, I wouldn't stay focused on difficult child's "nothing happened" attitude. I think that is a common response with difficult child's. While it's important, to redirect negative behavior there's no sense in beating a dead horse either. When something like this happens, I would address it, but tread lightly. Chances are difficult child already heard numerous lectures from school, and husband. By the time difficult child got home-the subject is old-and already forgotten about. If you feel it's a situation that he should be disciplined for, talk to husband about it, decide on an appropriate consequence and implement it. It never did me any good to address a particular incident over and over. Once my difficult child suffered the consequence (sometimes it was only the natural consequence and not an additional one) of his inappropriate actions, it's over-time to move on. Try not to blame yourself for difficult child's actions. You sound like a parent who is constantly trying to do the right thing. By now you know that difficult child's and easy child's are not wired the same. What worked for one is not necessarily going to work for the other. You question whether medications will help your difficult child. I see that he is taking several. What was he like without the medications? and there is your answer. medications., like therapy, are a tool not a cure. While your difficult child is intellectually advanced, emmotionally he's still 12. My difficult child is 16, maturity,which seems to be coming slowly but surely, has brought about some positive changes. Hang in there your difficult child has a lot of growing up to do yet. I've responded to a few of your posts now. You sound understandably frustrated, and depressed. Do you think your AD needs to be adjusted? I hope I didn't just step over the line. I am not implying that all the things that are going on in your life are not legitmate reasons to be frustrated and depressed. I know how hard it is parent a difficult child especially when you feel this way. I've been there too. Be good to yourself. Make some time and do something just for you. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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