So we have been communicating with my son about conditions the last couple of days. I originally sent him a message and he responded and then he called and we had a good conversation over the phone. My expectation when i sent him the text was to get the manipulative, entitled, bordering on nasty comments... which is what he does when he is using.....or to get serious push back about why was I doing this. I didnt get any of that. Instead I got a good conversation about what would work and wouldnt work from a practical point of view, with some alternative suggestions which were good ones. He also talked about his work with his sponser and work on the 4th step. This is a sign to me that at this moment at time he is not using and is actually back on track.... of course he could be totally playing me in which case he has gotten really really good at it, but I dont think so. The conversation felt too real and real discussion instead of manipulation. It does sound like he is working hard to find a job. His only transportation is a bike and some of the jobs he would like would require him to drive..... and he needs to find something he can bike too..... but he does sound serious about it. The sober house is requiring him to go to 2 meetings a day which he is also doing. And he is going to the gym.