Just got home from taking difficult child 1's fiance to shop for a wedding dress. That all went well; we found a really pretty one that she likes for a good price so we bought it. While I was there they asked me to come stay with them for a couple of weeks the end of March to help out as she is getting her tubes tied and will not be able to do a lot of stuff. She has two girls from her first marriage (ages 9 and 4) and difficult child says he does not want kids. Also she had trouble having the first ones and has lost a couple since. Financially, metally, conveniently, they probably don't need any more kids. However, she just found out when she was at the doctor that she had been pregnant (for less than 4 weeks) and the fetus died. I can't help feeling that I've lost a grandchild and that now difficult child is losing any chance of ever having kids of his own. I tend to be pro-choice in most cases and in this case it was apparently God's choice that this child should not be. If somebody had posed this situation to me I would not have expected to be upset by it but somehow now I am. Even though it may be for the best; even though they seem fine with it; part of me is sad tonight. I'm sorry for rambling on but you guys are really the only people I have to talk to about things like this. Thanks for listening.