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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 695752" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Savior no more, I'm sorry and I understand the unease and even guilt you are feeling about being somewhere having fun while your precious son is in jail.</p><p></p><p>Please---do the best you can to live in the moment and let this go. <strong> You </strong>aren't in jail. <strong>He </strong>is in jail. and he's there because he made choices that put him there for the safety of other people...and a side benefit is his own safety. </p><p></p><p>I got to the point that I could breathe and even relax when my son was in jail. He was...somewhere...instead of out on the street homeless and/or couch surfing and taking drugs and doing who knows what else. </p><p></p><p>You're right, you could be there, but this isn't your job to do. It's the attorney's job to do, and they may or may not reduce the sentence right now. If they don't, there will be other times---the right time---where you can be a part of this process if there is a role for you to play. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ah. Now this is important. He is right where he needs to be, it sounds like. He is in a place where he is drug-free and away from the friends and he can feel the full force of his decisions. That is a good thing. Maybe he's not ready to leave yet. Maybe this is exactly the right thing for him...right now.</p><p></p><p>And for you. You lean into this moment of rest and relaxation and just enjoy it. You have worked for it and you deserve it. Just work to live in the ...right now. Right now everything is okay. Let the future take care of itself. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs. Yes please go to Al-Anon. This is your time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 695752, member: 17542"] Hi Savior no more, I'm sorry and I understand the unease and even guilt you are feeling about being somewhere having fun while your precious son is in jail. Please---do the best you can to live in the moment and let this go. [B] You [/B]aren't in jail. [B]He [/B]is in jail. and he's there because he made choices that put him there for the safety of other people...and a side benefit is his own safety. I got to the point that I could breathe and even relax when my son was in jail. He was...somewhere...instead of out on the street homeless and/or couch surfing and taking drugs and doing who knows what else. You're right, you could be there, but this isn't your job to do. It's the attorney's job to do, and they may or may not reduce the sentence right now. If they don't, there will be other times---the right time---where you can be a part of this process if there is a role for you to play. Ah. Now this is important. He is right where he needs to be, it sounds like. He is in a place where he is drug-free and away from the friends and he can feel the full force of his decisions. That is a good thing. Maybe he's not ready to leave yet. Maybe this is exactly the right thing for him...right now. And for you. You lean into this moment of rest and relaxation and just enjoy it. You have worked for it and you deserve it. Just work to live in the ...right now. Right now everything is okay. Let the future take care of itself. Warm hugs. Yes please go to Al-Anon. This is your time. [/QUOTE]
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