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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 656799" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>First, I'm sending you a ((HUG))</p><p></p><p></p><p>You did not do this to him he did it to himself.</p><p></p><p></p><p>It's not a matter of whether he deserves this, it's a matter of he has made choices in his life that have real consequences. He is not willing or wanting to own his responsibility in this so he will place the blame on you.</p><p>You really need to understand that his choices have created all of this chaos. YOU did not do this to him, HE did this to himself.</p><p></p><p>I understand you are hurting, that you love your son. I am sorry you are going through this. Please do not let him guilt you into thinking that any of this is your fault.</p><p></p><p>You filed an injunction against him because you were afraid of him. He has threatened you and done damage to your home. If a perfect stranger were to do this you would not stand for it so don't stand for it just because it's your son.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is only a part of your world. Do not let it define you. You have done all you can for your son. You are now single and have your own life to live. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to do something good for yourself. Something as simple as getting a pedicure.</p><p></p><p>One thing that always helps to bring about peace for me is being in nature. I am blessed to have a forest preserve in back yard, I will go for a walk or ride my bike. It's so peaceful. Even if you can just go to a park and watch the ducks, or a drive in the country.</p><p></p><p>I will also suggest that you limit your contact with your son. If he calls you do not have to answer. Sometimes it's easier to communicate via texting. This is about boundaries. You need to set them. Do not let your son bully you and if he tries tell him you will call the police and be prepared to do it. Again, his choices have created all this chaos not you.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/group-hug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":group-hug:" title="group hug :group-hug:" data-shortname=":group-hug:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 656799, member: 18516"] First, I'm sending you a ((HUG)) You did not do this to him he did it to himself. It's not a matter of whether he deserves this, it's a matter of he has made choices in his life that have real consequences. He is not willing or wanting to own his responsibility in this so he will place the blame on you. You really need to understand that his choices have created all of this chaos. YOU did not do this to him, HE did this to himself. I understand you are hurting, that you love your son. I am sorry you are going through this. Please do not let him guilt you into thinking that any of this is your fault. You filed an injunction against him because you were afraid of him. He has threatened you and done damage to your home. If a perfect stranger were to do this you would not stand for it so don't stand for it just because it's your son. This is only a part of your world. Do not let it define you. You have done all you can for your son. You are now single and have your own life to live. I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to do something good for yourself. Something as simple as getting a pedicure. One thing that always helps to bring about peace for me is being in nature. I am blessed to have a forest preserve in back yard, I will go for a walk or ride my bike. It's so peaceful. Even if you can just go to a park and watch the ducks, or a drive in the country. I will also suggest that you limit your contact with your son. If he calls you do not have to answer. Sometimes it's easier to communicate via texting. This is about boundaries. You need to set them. Do not let your son bully you and if he tries tell him you will call the police and be prepared to do it. Again, his choices have created all this chaos not you. :group-hug::notalone::staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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