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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 60076"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: tiredmommy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It really irked me that I could receive so much sympathy from my peers for a physical illness, but be virtually shunned because of the possibly of mental or neurological issues. It's a double standard I can neither understand or tolerate. </div></div></p><p></p><p>Amen. A couple of months ago someone that barely knows me told me that I just needed to be more firm with my daughter. I asked him if he had parented a child with psychological and neurological issues. No? Then how is it that you think you know how to fix it, I asked. I have zero tolerance for those kinds of comments anymore. Other people have told me that if I just make difficult child go to school (instead of homeschooling that I used to do, or allowing her to miss so much) that it would fix everything. Hmmm...she has crippling, severe anxiety and school is her biggest trigger, by far. Are you afraid of spiders? Let's put you in a pit full of them and provide no coping skills or means of escape. That will fix it, right? (tongue in cheek) It's the same mentality.</p><p></p><p>But to answer your question, yes I have many, many times blamed myself. I have a history of depression and anxiety so of course I feel like that has played into it. Not only passing it on genetically, but in being a (formerly) depressed parent. However, I know that I am a good mom, despite my imperfections (I just have to repeat that to myself often) and that I am doing the best I can. That's all anyone can ask for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 60076"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: tiredmommy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It really irked me that I could receive so much sympathy from my peers for a physical illness, but be virtually shunned because of the possibly of mental or neurological issues. It's a double standard I can neither understand or tolerate. </div></div> Amen. A couple of months ago someone that barely knows me told me that I just needed to be more firm with my daughter. I asked him if he had parented a child with psychological and neurological issues. No? Then how is it that you think you know how to fix it, I asked. I have zero tolerance for those kinds of comments anymore. Other people have told me that if I just make difficult child go to school (instead of homeschooling that I used to do, or allowing her to miss so much) that it would fix everything. Hmmm...she has crippling, severe anxiety and school is her biggest trigger, by far. Are you afraid of spiders? Let's put you in a pit full of them and provide no coping skills or means of escape. That will fix it, right? (tongue in cheek) It's the same mentality. But to answer your question, yes I have many, many times blamed myself. I have a history of depression and anxiety so of course I feel like that has played into it. Not only passing it on genetically, but in being a (formerly) depressed parent. However, I know that I am a good mom, despite my imperfections (I just have to repeat that to myself often) and that I am doing the best I can. That's all anyone can ask for. [/QUOTE]
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