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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 650046" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree that how people treat you isn't a reflection of who you are or how you deserve to be treated. However, it is a big statement about how YOU think you deserve to be treated. That's why so many of our trouble sweeties have such horrendous friends that our more confident kiddos would never hang out with. That applies to ourselves too.</p><p></p><p>Seems like it is not just your love life, but your life friends who have had soooooooo many problems and drama. Mine used to as well and my family too. And therefore I got treated like they treated life...dysfunctional. I learned to distance myself from those who have a sad story. Unfortuantely, I found that often they will use you to help them then take off when YOU need THEM. Once I literally drove a lady around for three weeks trying to find a place who would let her rent WITH her seven kids and her felony on her record. I actually was the one who found the source too!</p><p></p><p>After she settled into her home, guess how often she wanted to see me? You're right. When we pass in the town we wave and hug, but there is no friendship. She isn't interested in one. Often that is the case when you set yourself up as a personal social worker and rescuer to somebody you feel needs you.</p><p></p><p>We can't change our kids and we can't change the world at large either. Generally people who can not take care of themselves get along by using others. I learned that lesson big time.</p><p></p><p>Be careful and kind with and to your heart. Stable people make stable friends and lovers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 650046, member: 1550"] I agree that how people treat you isn't a reflection of who you are or how you deserve to be treated. However, it is a big statement about how YOU think you deserve to be treated. That's why so many of our trouble sweeties have such horrendous friends that our more confident kiddos would never hang out with. That applies to ourselves too. Seems like it is not just your love life, but your life friends who have had soooooooo many problems and drama. Mine used to as well and my family too. And therefore I got treated like they treated life...dysfunctional. I learned to distance myself from those who have a sad story. Unfortuantely, I found that often they will use you to help them then take off when YOU need THEM. Once I literally drove a lady around for three weeks trying to find a place who would let her rent WITH her seven kids and her felony on her record. I actually was the one who found the source too! After she settled into her home, guess how often she wanted to see me? You're right. When we pass in the town we wave and hug, but there is no friendship. She isn't interested in one. Often that is the case when you set yourself up as a personal social worker and rescuer to somebody you feel needs you. We can't change our kids and we can't change the world at large either. Generally people who can not take care of themselves get along by using others. I learned that lesson big time. Be careful and kind with and to your heart. Stable people make stable friends and lovers. [/QUOTE]
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