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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 678886" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>She is ambitious and they are young. While I really like her I never have considered it likely they would marry. I mean in my culture it is common to start family in thirties rather than twenties and most do not do it with the same person they were together in early twenties. I think I'm almost only one of my group of friends who is still with the person I was with in my early twenties and definitely only one who hurried and had kids then. </p><p></p><p>I guess it is not so much this particular girlfriend, while I really like her, that I grieve, but that my son seems to be falling off the wagon when it comes to kids like her. </p><p></p><p>Cops, I'm sure that some ways part of attraction between Ache and girlfriend has been that they are in different places in life and do not compete. Considering that both are extremely competitive I'm sure it is a relief to not have to compete with each other. And I think Ache has been smart on sharing his issues with girlfriend. Though she did complain Ache keeps certain distance when it comes to sharing his struggles, I honestly think that has kept them going till now and gives them some possibility to carry on. He hasn't lied about them, but is just giving her bones of it instead of sharing the whole devastation. No desperate calls or messages middle of the night, no suicidal ideation in his corresponding with her etc. Because of that deepness of crisis do surprise her, but at least she is not stuck in to the worry and being a caregiver from the distance.</p><p></p><p>I guess mostly my sadness is about having to get used to very different set of expectations with Ache than what I have hoped for and been used to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 678886, member: 14557"] She is ambitious and they are young. While I really like her I never have considered it likely they would marry. I mean in my culture it is common to start family in thirties rather than twenties and most do not do it with the same person they were together in early twenties. I think I'm almost only one of my group of friends who is still with the person I was with in my early twenties and definitely only one who hurried and had kids then. I guess it is not so much this particular girlfriend, while I really like her, that I grieve, but that my son seems to be falling off the wagon when it comes to kids like her. Cops, I'm sure that some ways part of attraction between Ache and girlfriend has been that they are in different places in life and do not compete. Considering that both are extremely competitive I'm sure it is a relief to not have to compete with each other. And I think Ache has been smart on sharing his issues with girlfriend. Though she did complain Ache keeps certain distance when it comes to sharing his struggles, I honestly think that has kept them going till now and gives them some possibility to carry on. He hasn't lied about them, but is just giving her bones of it instead of sharing the whole devastation. No desperate calls or messages middle of the night, no suicidal ideation in his corresponding with her etc. Because of that deepness of crisis do surprise her, but at least she is not stuck in to the worry and being a caregiver from the distance. I guess mostly my sadness is about having to get used to very different set of expectations with Ache than what I have hoped for and been used to. [/QUOTE]
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