My first post. So many sad stories here, maybe I'll feel some relief if I share our story. My daughter, 23 now, started taking a friend's Adderal during her freshman year at college. At some point it progressed to cocaine and we still didn't know. When she left school before her senior year she moved home and thing began disappearing around the house. We were stupid and gullible and believed her when she swore she wasn't doing anything. Cash started disappearing and credit cards. It all imploded after that. She was arrested, charged with 3 felonies. She' on an 18 mo deferred disposition. She has a court date Jan 5th, they may revoke her bail because she relapsed and I don't know what to do. She lies as easily as breathing. She has stolen from her disabled brother. I don't think she cares. I see no remorse, no shame. I don' know who she is anymore. She stopped counseling (she was lying to him anyway). She seems proud that she has people fooled. I try to talk to her, ask her how she can steal from family. She shrugs her shoulders. She won't try to get better. Her father and I don't know what to do. Her 2 brothers want nothing to do with her understandably. I can't seem to distance myself from my only daughter. I cry every day and feel hopeless. I'm so sorry so many others here have similar stories. I don't know how to get through this.