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<blockquote data-quote="SeaGenieTx" data-source="post: 675695" data-attributes="member: 18773"><p>SomeWhereOutThere - well said! </p><p></p><p>kimberlyF, it's heartbreaking I know. My son is the same age as your daughter, same scenario except I have already kicked my son out of my home. Drugs, failure to launch, being 23 and doing nothing but partying, refusing to work or go to school.... and a total lack of respect towards me and my rules in my home, out he went.</p><p></p><p>He is my only child and I am alone with no family so it's been extremely difficult for me but the best thing I have done (and it has NOT been easy) is to detach and focus on myself. I live in peace with him out of my house (he was doing drugs, bringing drug paraphernalia in my home, bringing friends over while I was at work to get high and do drugs, he got verbally abusive and called me names) - I kicked him to planet Mars.</p><p></p><p>Weeks have gone by and I have heard nothing but I can "stalk" him on Facebook as he calls it and see he is ok (alive and not in jail). I detached and just yesterday on Xmas day he sent me a text "Merry Christmas, love you". Totally unexpected considering his last words to me were "F*** you, you're delusional and crazy!". I will never, ever forget him saying that to me - ever.</p><p></p><p>Staying detached is hard. I love my son more than life but I will NEVER tolerate anyone talking to me like that, doing anything illegal in MY home and disrespecting me and calling me vulgar names and taking advantage of me. I cut my son completely out of my life and he will stay out of my life as long as he keeps acting like an idiot, doing illegal substances and talking to me like a thug.</p><p></p><p>Everyone says it's not our children but the drugs that make them such horrible demonic aliens. I saw sides of my son that truly were evil and it scared the living daylights out of me. I will never risk my safety like that again. The further he stays away the better.</p><p></p><p>Unless he quits drugs, gets his life on track and treats me with respect, I'm totally detached and want nothing to do with him. I love him but he is on his own, time to grow up and act like a man instead of a punk ass thug.</p><p></p><p>Tough love is harder on us than it is on them but you gotta do it. When you enable you just keep giving your kid more ammo to destroy themselves. I stopped enabling and released the damn kracken - my son knows I'm madder than hell this time and I'm done until he gets a life and becomes a responsible, respectable man. Right now he's got the intelligence of a shovel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeaGenieTx, post: 675695, member: 18773"] SomeWhereOutThere - well said! kimberlyF, it's heartbreaking I know. My son is the same age as your daughter, same scenario except I have already kicked my son out of my home. Drugs, failure to launch, being 23 and doing nothing but partying, refusing to work or go to school.... and a total lack of respect towards me and my rules in my home, out he went. He is my only child and I am alone with no family so it's been extremely difficult for me but the best thing I have done (and it has NOT been easy) is to detach and focus on myself. I live in peace with him out of my house (he was doing drugs, bringing drug paraphernalia in my home, bringing friends over while I was at work to get high and do drugs, he got verbally abusive and called me names) - I kicked him to planet Mars. Weeks have gone by and I have heard nothing but I can "stalk" him on Facebook as he calls it and see he is ok (alive and not in jail). I detached and just yesterday on Xmas day he sent me a text "Merry Christmas, love you". Totally unexpected considering his last words to me were "F*** you, you're delusional and crazy!". I will never, ever forget him saying that to me - ever. Staying detached is hard. I love my son more than life but I will NEVER tolerate anyone talking to me like that, doing anything illegal in MY home and disrespecting me and calling me vulgar names and taking advantage of me. I cut my son completely out of my life and he will stay out of my life as long as he keeps acting like an idiot, doing illegal substances and talking to me like a thug. Everyone says it's not our children but the drugs that make them such horrible demonic aliens. I saw sides of my son that truly were evil and it scared the living daylights out of me. I will never risk my safety like that again. The further he stays away the better. Unless he quits drugs, gets his life on track and treats me with respect, I'm totally detached and want nothing to do with him. I love him but he is on his own, time to grow up and act like a man instead of a punk ass thug. Tough love is harder on us than it is on them but you gotta do it. When you enable you just keep giving your kid more ammo to destroy themselves. I stopped enabling and released the damn kracken - my son knows I'm madder than hell this time and I'm done until he gets a life and becomes a responsible, respectable man. Right now he's got the intelligence of a shovel. [/QUOTE]
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