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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 678232" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Regret. I'm going to guess that if even a small percentage of us on the CD board got together and combined our regrets, we'd have enough to drown in.</p><p> </p><p>Part of me wants to say... your regrets only go back to 7th grade? (mine go back to kindergarten). Yes, I always wonder what we missed or what could have been done differently.</p><p> </p><p>I am <em>slowly</em> learning to not take the regret so personally. That is... some of what happened to my highly challenged child WERE unfair, ugly, wrong, almost criminal. Just as my child regrets those things, so can I... I can <em>regret that they happened, regret that the medical and school systems had nothing to offer us or him no matter how hard we fought.</em></p><p> </p><p>What could *I* have done differently? Lots of things, except, the farther we go in this process, the more I understand that the things that were in my power to change, would have made at most a very tiny dent in the outcome. Most of it was beyond my power to even influence.</p><p> </p><p>At some point in the future, I may be able to collect my wits and energy, and start a crusade against all the injustices around mental health and developmental challenges in our young people. Not until after we are done with our own challenging child, however - and that's going to be a while yet. Until then, I guess I just have to park the regret.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 678232, member: 11791"] Regret. I'm going to guess that if even a small percentage of us on the CD board got together and combined our regrets, we'd have enough to drown in. Part of me wants to say... your regrets only go back to 7th grade? (mine go back to kindergarten). Yes, I always wonder what we missed or what could have been done differently. I am [I]slowly[/I] learning to not take the regret so personally. That is... some of what happened to my highly challenged child WERE unfair, ugly, wrong, almost criminal. Just as my child regrets those things, so can I... I can [I]regret that they happened, regret that the medical and school systems had nothing to offer us or him no matter how hard we fought.[/I] What could *I* have done differently? Lots of things, except, the farther we go in this process, the more I understand that the things that were in my power to change, would have made at most a very tiny dent in the outcome. Most of it was beyond my power to even influence. At some point in the future, I may be able to collect my wits and energy, and start a crusade against all the injustices around mental health and developmental challenges in our young people. Not until after we are done with our own challenging child, however - and that's going to be a while yet. Until then, I guess I just have to park the regret. [/QUOTE]
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