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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 675231" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Ksm, this is one of the hardest things I struggled with, with both of my boys when they were in high school. They are introverts. I am a raging extrovert (lol). </p><p></p><p>In h.s., I loved it all. I had lots of friends and was very involved, did it all, the football games, the dances, etc. It was a golden time for me.</p><p></p><p>Since then, I have learned so much about how horrible h.s. can be for so many people.</p><p></p><p>But still, when my own boys got to that age, I was so bewildered when they didn't want to go to the Friday night football games and dances. They had friends, and were involved in smaller groups, but they didn't seem to be going and doing all the time like I did.</p><p></p><p>My Cinderella self just could not grasp it. My older son played electric bass guitar in the football band and the jazz band and upright bass in the youth symphony. He also played hockey. My younger son played soccer all four years. They had friends but from where I sat, it didn't look like that much fun. </p><p></p><p>Realizing that they are so different from me (introverted) has been a lifelong challenge for me. </p><p></p><p>Watching our kids not be happy is so hard. We know that friends get us through it all. Today, my younger son (Difficult Child) doesn't seem to have many friends, but he does have one person he talks about. I just can't do that for him. Maybe he doesn't need friends like I do. Just trying to accept reality and what is. I can't fix it, even though it is hard to watch.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. I'm glad you are getting clarity on what is going on with her. That is the first step to doing something about it. We're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 675231, member: 17542"] Ksm, this is one of the hardest things I struggled with, with both of my boys when they were in high school. They are introverts. I am a raging extrovert (lol). In h.s., I loved it all. I had lots of friends and was very involved, did it all, the football games, the dances, etc. It was a golden time for me. Since then, I have learned so much about how horrible h.s. can be for so many people. But still, when my own boys got to that age, I was so bewildered when they didn't want to go to the Friday night football games and dances. They had friends, and were involved in smaller groups, but they didn't seem to be going and doing all the time like I did. My Cinderella self just could not grasp it. My older son played electric bass guitar in the football band and the jazz band and upright bass in the youth symphony. He also played hockey. My younger son played soccer all four years. They had friends but from where I sat, it didn't look like that much fun. Realizing that they are so different from me (introverted) has been a lifelong challenge for me. Watching our kids not be happy is so hard. We know that friends get us through it all. Today, my younger son (Difficult Child) doesn't seem to have many friends, but he does have one person he talks about. I just can't do that for him. Maybe he doesn't need friends like I do. Just trying to accept reality and what is. I can't fix it, even though it is hard to watch. Hang in there. I'm glad you are getting clarity on what is going on with her. That is the first step to doing something about it. We're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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