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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 701925" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Please do enjoy your life. it is short and we arent getting any younger. your daughter has her whole life to decide to make it productive or useless. you should not have to sacrifice these possibly happy times with hubby for a lazy, disrespectful adult, child or not. You will regret it one day if you keep her there because enabling doesnt help her anyway. What happens when you are no longer here?</p><p></p><p>I suggest setting a timeline in one to three months when she has to move out. Sure she will scream and tell you how awful you are and accuse you of guilt provoking things (they all do this) but once she is gone, she will survive and you can find peace and focus on your relationship with your husband...and the rest of your life.</p><p></p><p>Dont turn 80 and realize you wasted your golden years. Your daughter needs to find her own way. She is not a little girl anymore. If you have a God, give her to God. If not, trust her to land on her feet, even if that is couch surfing. She needs incentive to grow up. Living with you, using your car, being financially suppirted by you, ruining your new marriage will never make her think of doing adult things so its not good for her either.</p><p></p><p>Have a good rest of your life <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 701925, member: 1550"] Please do enjoy your life. it is short and we arent getting any younger. your daughter has her whole life to decide to make it productive or useless. you should not have to sacrifice these possibly happy times with hubby for a lazy, disrespectful adult, child or not. You will regret it one day if you keep her there because enabling doesnt help her anyway. What happens when you are no longer here? I suggest setting a timeline in one to three months when she has to move out. Sure she will scream and tell you how awful you are and accuse you of guilt provoking things (they all do this) but once she is gone, she will survive and you can find peace and focus on your relationship with your husband...and the rest of your life. Dont turn 80 and realize you wasted your golden years. Your daughter needs to find her own way. She is not a little girl anymore. If you have a God, give her to God. If not, trust her to land on her feet, even if that is couch surfing. She needs incentive to grow up. Living with you, using your car, being financially suppirted by you, ruining your new marriage will never make her think of doing adult things so its not good for her either. Have a good rest of your life :) [/QUOTE]
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