So it has been about 3 weeks since my son lost his job and he is not doing much to look for a new one. Instead he is hanging with friends getting stoned, I have noticed the last 6 months or so that his pot use has increased and of course his motivation has all but disappeared. He dropped two of his classes which means he only has one left that he is taking. Because face to face communication always ends up in yelling and screaming with him yesterday I decided to text him after he was supposed to be going to a job interview but said the times were confused and he had to reschedule. Then he texted to say he was going to hang out with friends. I told him that he is not holding up his end of the bargain, he is supposed to be working to live at home and he is spending most of his time “hanging out” and no time job hunting. Well he tried to say that he is making all this effort that I don’t about which is bs. I reminded him that it is not my responsibility to put a roof over his head any longer and that we are doing it to help him prepare to stand on his own two feet. Told me he is doing the best he can and I should chill out. So I told him I will “chill out” when he starts holding up to his end of the bargain because I’m done playing games. He has money in the bank from his tax return which I’m pretty sure he is blowing right threw so he is in no hurry. I don’t care if he had $10,000 in the bank he still needs to working. Tonight I’m going to two al anon meetings, I need it.