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<blockquote data-quote="!overwhelmed!" data-source="post: 650261" data-attributes="member: 18486"><p>Well, I have my court date set for Thursday March 5th for the hearing for guardianship. I have no idea what to expect. I have a mountain of "evidence" from her cell phone. I got an affidavit from the landlord as she left town today to visit her ailing mom in SoCal and will be gone for several weeks. She states everything that happened on the night it all went down, (Feb 5th) the crashing the car, being drunk, threatening her & her family & property, including "her seeing him hit my daughter", and hearing him "yelling" in the trailer while alone with the baby (babysitting) on other occasions & all of the yelling between the 2 of them since they moved in on December 1. I've been told so many things by so many people...I don't want to come across as a crazy banshee trying to "steal" my daughter's baby.</p><p> </p><p>Mostly my thinking is to approach this in small statements with hard copy evidence "ready to go" for each statement. I'm thinking a binder...since so much of it is from texting. And now my husband is driving me crazy...here is what I have in the order he thinks it should go, ugh! This is so frustrating:</p><p></p><p>#1) Violence: </p><p><u>I have document #'s of the multiple restraining orders against him</u>, 3 of which were from his own mother & she also had one against my daughter. The court just issued a TRO against him for the landlord as he threatened to burn down her house & kill her & her family. (the landlord did not seek a permanent order as she evicted my daughter so she felt there would be no further contact.) I'm supposed to be getting printouts from the sheriff's office regarding all the past incidents from his home & his grandparents home (he being the boyfriend). Apparently since 2006 there have been 83 incident calls to the sheriff from his home & 17 from his grandparents home, I'm thinking that's a lot. <u>I have the affidavit, I have 2 audio recordings (voicemails) from the landlord on 2 different dates (a week apart) telling them to "shut up, take a walk & cool down" & "is he alone in there screaming with that baby in there".</u> I only have <u>our family's eyewitness account of my daughter's injuries/bruising </u>from her "fall", I managed to find<u> photos of the mark on the baby's forehead from a few days later</u>. (I have a before & after within days of each other). I'm bringing my husband, 18 year old daughter & myself <u>for our eyewitness accounts of all of us having to take the crying baby out of her hands while she is literally screaming</u> on the phone at him. <u>Texts from a "new" friend worried about his abusive behavior toward my daughter.</u> I have multiple texts regarding <u>how much they hate us</u> (all - his family, her family, their friends) and <u>"can't wait to be out on their own".</u> </p><p></p><p>#2) Theft:</p><p>I have the evidence of the felony for burglary & selling stolen merchandise. I have one audio recording (voicemail) from my husband's phone from the pawn broker who they sold the stolen merchandise to. </p><p></p><p>#3) Drug use</p><p>Most all of my "evidence" is from their own texts to each other & their friends. Regarding; getting high (multiple times a day from him) either from pot (various forms) or drinking some even "while with the baby" or when he's coming to get them both.</p><p></p><p>#4) Neglect</p><p>I have texts regarding them taking the baby to the local fairgrounds (where they hang out & get high) and her coming back with a sunburn at 3 months old. I have texts between them regarding her not bathing the baby frequently enough. Texts about how the baby at 3 months old, is just being a "brat", crying to get her way... </p><p></p><p>#5) Gaming the system</p><p>Their deciding to lie to me & her employer instead of going to her housecleaning job & go downtown instead to "ask for money", while I watch the baby, all while living off welfare & food stamps. I also have my conversations with the local welfare fraud investigator (after he came to our house) who said he can "neither confirm nor deny" his investigating them for fraud. </p><p></p><p>#6) Animal neglect & uncleanliness of their dwelling</p><p>The animal control had to come out & take the 3 cats (1 litter box) out of the tiny trailer they & the baby had been living in, after they spent 5 days in jail. (It's not even a 5th wheel, it's a 1 bed hauler from the early 70's at best - maybe 30 feet) Previous to that, they had a puppy/dog they also had to give to the "no kill" pound for their inability to care for it. (all of this is in texts) </p><p></p><p>I also have the document # of his father's past felony back in 1996...not that it has any relevance other than the proverbial "apple".</p><p></p><p>Closing with the facts of: 1) INCREASING violence. 2) Escalating drug & alcohol abuse. 3) Willingness to commit crime. 4) Inability to care for themselves or the baby. 5) UNABLE to deal with reality. 6) They have totaled her car, so no transportation. 7) No jobs. 8) Not sure where they are living - we think with his grandma (68yrs) - who is taking care of her dying husband & guardian of one of her great grandchildren, a boy of elementary school age. 9) His inability to get a CA drivers license.</p><p></p><p>If anyone has any help, suggestions etc., I'm all ears! Thanks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="!overwhelmed!, post: 650261, member: 18486"] Well, I have my court date set for Thursday March 5th for the hearing for guardianship. I have no idea what to expect. I have a mountain of "evidence" from her cell phone. I got an affidavit from the landlord as she left town today to visit her ailing mom in SoCal and will be gone for several weeks. She states everything that happened on the night it all went down, (Feb 5th) the crashing the car, being drunk, threatening her & her family & property, including "her seeing him hit my daughter", and hearing him "yelling" in the trailer while alone with the baby (babysitting) on other occasions & all of the yelling between the 2 of them since they moved in on December 1. I've been told so many things by so many people...I don't want to come across as a crazy banshee trying to "steal" my daughter's baby. Mostly my thinking is to approach this in small statements with hard copy evidence "ready to go" for each statement. I'm thinking a binder...since so much of it is from texting. And now my husband is driving me crazy...here is what I have in the order he thinks it should go, ugh! This is so frustrating: #1) Violence: [U]I have document #'s of the multiple restraining orders against him[/U], 3 of which were from his own mother & she also had one against my daughter. The court just issued a TRO against him for the landlord as he threatened to burn down her house & kill her & her family. (the landlord did not seek a permanent order as she evicted my daughter so she felt there would be no further contact.) I'm supposed to be getting printouts from the sheriff's office regarding all the past incidents from his home & his grandparents home (he being the boyfriend). Apparently since 2006 there have been 83 incident calls to the sheriff from his home & 17 from his grandparents home, I'm thinking that's a lot. [U]I have the affidavit, I have 2 audio recordings (voicemails) from the landlord on 2 different dates (a week apart) telling them to "shut up, take a walk & cool down" & "is he alone in there screaming with that baby in there".[/U] I only have [U]our family's eyewitness account of my daughter's injuries/bruising [/U]from her "fall", I managed to find[U] photos of the mark on the baby's forehead from a few days later[/U]. (I have a before & after within days of each other). I'm bringing my husband, 18 year old daughter & myself [U]for our eyewitness accounts of all of us having to take the crying baby out of her hands while she is literally screaming[/U] on the phone at him. [U]Texts from a "new" friend worried about his abusive behavior toward my daughter.[/U] I have multiple texts regarding [U]how much they hate us[/U] (all - his family, her family, their friends) and [U]"can't wait to be out on their own".[/U] #2) Theft: I have the evidence of the felony for burglary & selling stolen merchandise. I have one audio recording (voicemail) from my husband's phone from the pawn broker who they sold the stolen merchandise to. #3) Drug use Most all of my "evidence" is from their own texts to each other & their friends. Regarding; getting high (multiple times a day from him) either from pot (various forms) or drinking some even "while with the baby" or when he's coming to get them both. #4) Neglect I have texts regarding them taking the baby to the local fairgrounds (where they hang out & get high) and her coming back with a sunburn at 3 months old. I have texts between them regarding her not bathing the baby frequently enough. Texts about how the baby at 3 months old, is just being a "brat", crying to get her way... #5) Gaming the system Their deciding to lie to me & her employer instead of going to her housecleaning job & go downtown instead to "ask for money", while I watch the baby, all while living off welfare & food stamps. I also have my conversations with the local welfare fraud investigator (after he came to our house) who said he can "neither confirm nor deny" his investigating them for fraud. #6) Animal neglect & uncleanliness of their dwelling The animal control had to come out & take the 3 cats (1 litter box) out of the tiny trailer they & the baby had been living in, after they spent 5 days in jail. (It's not even a 5th wheel, it's a 1 bed hauler from the early 70's at best - maybe 30 feet) Previous to that, they had a puppy/dog they also had to give to the "no kill" pound for their inability to care for it. (all of this is in texts) I also have the document # of his father's past felony back in 1996...not that it has any relevance other than the proverbial "apple". Closing with the facts of: 1) INCREASING violence. 2) Escalating drug & alcohol abuse. 3) Willingness to commit crime. 4) Inability to care for themselves or the baby. 5) UNABLE to deal with reality. 6) They have totaled her car, so no transportation. 7) No jobs. 8) Not sure where they are living - we think with his grandma (68yrs) - who is taking care of her dying husband & guardian of one of her great grandchildren, a boy of elementary school age. 9) His inability to get a CA drivers license. If anyone has any help, suggestions etc., I'm all ears! Thanks. [/QUOTE]
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