It's been a little while since I've posted/updated. My difficult child was in the juvenile detention center for almost five weeks. It was used more as a holding facility more than anything else, so I wish he wasn't there for so long, but he's finally out. It was very hard on all of us, but I'm thinking it was good because he knows his actions got him there. If he would have gone straight to Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), he probably wouldn't have been ready and wouldn't have realized the changes he needs to make. Anyway, he was transferred to the Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) yesterday. He had been accepted to the four we sent referrals to, I checked them all out, and it turned out that the one I thought would meet our needs best is the furthest away, two hours, each way. I know we'll live through it but at least while he was in the detention center I could see him a few times a week, now it may be a couple times per month. When I talked with him last night, about an hour after he got there, he sounded really flat. I was hoping to hear more enthusiasm in his voice since he left the detention center. I'm kinda sad now and want to check on him, but I don't want to become a high-maintenance mom and wonder if I should wait a few days? Also, I'm thinking that I shouldn't baby him too much while he's there, we should go to the family therapy sessions, visit when we can, but keep it low-key. I really want him to get the most out of this possible. This is really hard!! I miss him very much but know that he's not ready to come home yet, that would only set him up for disaster and I certainly don't want that! Any advice on how to make this easier for me and help him make some real changes? Thanks!