TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
... of course. We hired an atty, why called the detective yesterday and arranged to get difficult child 50 hrs community svc and 6 mo's probation.
I like that they gave us the opportunity to try to find a few places on our own.
I dropped off difficult child at school, and then checked out the local Boys and Girls Club thrift shop (and Habitat for Humanity thrift shop) and he's not allowed to work there because the charge is grand larceny and he's not supposed to be near retail merchandise.
People are very nice and it's an interesting way to meet people ... (not my first choice, of course! Embarrassing to say the least!) I was still wearing my biz outfit (difficult child wore a black suit with-a white shirt and no tie, the one he wore to my dad's funeral) and I made sure to be professional and sympathetic. So, now it's up to husband to get difficult child some work serving food to the poor at his church every Thurs eve.
If that doesn't work, we will be given a list of places that are already court-approved and vetted.
difficult child was nervous but relieved that it's all over. When the head probation officer met with-us to start the paperwork process (and explain that she's not the FT probation officer; we will get one from a nearby neighborhood), she asked difficult child what he expected as his sentence. He said we hadn't told him what to expect and that he wasn't sure if he was going to juvie.
In fact, we knew from the start that's what he'd get (and made it clear the atty) and the atty made it clear to scare the ^*$$&*# out of difficult child and tell him in great detail what goes on in many juvies and how he would never survive.
The po also asked him if he had any tattoos. I'm so glad this is all happening because we can lecture and lecture and he won't "get it" but now he understands why these things are important.
Even so, difficult child started an argument with-me while we were waiting for the probation officer, about not wanting to shave his beard. OMG, he just can't stop arguing! You know those SF movies where people get zapped from something in their brains when they do something wrong? That's what I want to do with-difficult child.
I'm tired. But relieved.
I am hoping husband can get his church to cooperate because it's exactly 1 mi away, so if I cannot drive for whatever reason, difficult child can walk.
I like that they gave us the opportunity to try to find a few places on our own.
I dropped off difficult child at school, and then checked out the local Boys and Girls Club thrift shop (and Habitat for Humanity thrift shop) and he's not allowed to work there because the charge is grand larceny and he's not supposed to be near retail merchandise.
People are very nice and it's an interesting way to meet people ... (not my first choice, of course! Embarrassing to say the least!) I was still wearing my biz outfit (difficult child wore a black suit with-a white shirt and no tie, the one he wore to my dad's funeral) and I made sure to be professional and sympathetic. So, now it's up to husband to get difficult child some work serving food to the poor at his church every Thurs eve.
If that doesn't work, we will be given a list of places that are already court-approved and vetted.
difficult child was nervous but relieved that it's all over. When the head probation officer met with-us to start the paperwork process (and explain that she's not the FT probation officer; we will get one from a nearby neighborhood), she asked difficult child what he expected as his sentence. He said we hadn't told him what to expect and that he wasn't sure if he was going to juvie.
In fact, we knew from the start that's what he'd get (and made it clear the atty) and the atty made it clear to scare the ^*$$&*# out of difficult child and tell him in great detail what goes on in many juvies and how he would never survive.
The po also asked him if he had any tattoos. I'm so glad this is all happening because we can lecture and lecture and he won't "get it" but now he understands why these things are important.
Even so, difficult child started an argument with-me while we were waiting for the probation officer, about not wanting to shave his beard. OMG, he just can't stop arguing! You know those SF movies where people get zapped from something in their brains when they do something wrong? That's what I want to do with-difficult child.
I'm tired. But relieved.
I am hoping husband can get his church to cooperate because it's exactly 1 mi away, so if I cannot drive for whatever reason, difficult child can walk.
