Hello all, Another newbie here at the end of her rope. For many years I have been trying every possible way to motivate my 20 year old son to take responsibility for his life. He has mental health issues, and I'm sure a mixed bag of other things. He has made some very unwise decisions as an adult, and is now a meth addict and has a warrant out for his arrest since he didn't show up to court this morning. His Father and I were giving him money for a hotel room since he has been kicked out of both of our houses. (So tired of dealing with the authorities!) I can see now, that even though it seemed like he was trying to get his life together in the beginning, it was just a scam to keep up his drugged life style. Now I can see very clearly that I have to cut him off financially. I'm so dreading dealing with his anger once he realizes that the gravy train is over. I'm hopeful that I will be able to maintain my composure. I know I need help. I live in a small mountain community, not much here. I actually moved out of Los Angeles partially to get away from him. He has no empathy and tears me apart. It's so good to have a place like this where I can see from other posts that this is a common theme. He definitely knows how to push my buttons. Got some good training from my ex. It's so hard when I remember that sweet little boy I once had. I'm still hopeful that one day, after he hits rock bottom, he'll be back. But I don't know. This is almost worse than if he had died. Thank you for listening. I know you all understand. It helps.