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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 670859" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>LostStep-Mom, You have found a safe place to reap a harvest of comfort, insight and wisdom from the folks here who all understand too well what you are experiencing. While each situation is so unique, common threads run throughout the various tapestries of the lives shared here. I’m sure it was by divine providence that I found this place a little more than a month ago, just in the nick of time to save my sanity. I only posted one thread back in September and received much support. I was away from my son and home situation on a trip but am now returned this week and preparing the steps for action for my son to leave our house. It is the only way. We have only enabled him to allow him here, all the time thinking we were helping, but indeed contributing to the enabling. </p><p></p><p>I come here to the forum site everyday for reinforcement and clarity. How thankful I am for this group. Stay with us and garner peace and strength. Believe me, we all relate to everything you have shared, the physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual struggles that just do not seem to get better, until we detach and take care of ourselves and realize our adult children must find their way. Your son is still so young, so I feel your pain in being fearful and concerned for him. My son is 36, a grown man, and I still feel as you summarized it so well .. <em>It has been an emotional roller coaster as you all know yourselves! I am a bit afraid of the future outcome of our new ultimatum and can't help to think that we are making a damaging decision because I can see his pain and struggle and I feel that deep down inside he wishes things could be different but he's stuck. And you know how painful that is as a parent and how part of me feels like he needs us to keep fighting for him. Ugh!! But he isn't accepting</em> <em>our help and he isnt helping himself, so something needs to change for his wellbeing and ours…</em>. </p><p></p><p>I’m thankful you found us. I know you are already relieved to have shared your situation and can start detaching. It is such a relief to be here with others who experientially really know what is happening. Bless you and keep posting. Others will also be along to support and uplift. Stay with us and keep posting. It helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 670859, member: 19617"] LostStep-Mom, You have found a safe place to reap a harvest of comfort, insight and wisdom from the folks here who all understand too well what you are experiencing. While each situation is so unique, common threads run throughout the various tapestries of the lives shared here. I’m sure it was by divine providence that I found this place a little more than a month ago, just in the nick of time to save my sanity. I only posted one thread back in September and received much support. I was away from my son and home situation on a trip but am now returned this week and preparing the steps for action for my son to leave our house. It is the only way. We have only enabled him to allow him here, all the time thinking we were helping, but indeed contributing to the enabling. I come here to the forum site everyday for reinforcement and clarity. How thankful I am for this group. Stay with us and garner peace and strength. Believe me, we all relate to everything you have shared, the physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual struggles that just do not seem to get better, until we detach and take care of ourselves and realize our adult children must find their way. Your son is still so young, so I feel your pain in being fearful and concerned for him. My son is 36, a grown man, and I still feel as you summarized it so well .. [I]It has been an emotional roller coaster as you all know yourselves! I am a bit afraid of the future outcome of our new ultimatum and can't help to think that we are making a damaging decision because I can see his pain and struggle and I feel that deep down inside he wishes things could be different but he's stuck. And you know how painful that is as a parent and how part of me feels like he needs us to keep fighting for him. Ugh!! But he isn't accepting[/I] [I]our help and he isnt helping himself, so something needs to change for his wellbeing and ours…[/I]. I’m thankful you found us. I know you are already relieved to have shared your situation and can start detaching. It is such a relief to be here with others who experientially really know what is happening. Bless you and keep posting. Others will also be along to support and uplift. Stay with us and keep posting. It helps. [/QUOTE]
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