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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 670895" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome LSM,</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you found us and thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry for what you are experiencing with your step son. He is truly blessed that you care so much about him.</p><p>It's a difficult journey dealing with an adult child that has issues gaining control over their life but you are not alone.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I remember these feelings all to well. Each day when I was driving home from work I would be about a mile from my house and the anxiety would start. As soon as I turned onto my street I would get a sick feeling in my stomach because I never knew what I would find when I got home. Many times I would walk into my house to find my son had ransacked it, he was always looking for money to steal.</p><p>This is no way to live. Our homes are supposed to be our sanctuary, a place of peace where we can recharge.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is understandable. We have all been there. I have learned that no amount of my worrying will change a thing. I had to think of the worst possible thing that could happen to my son which was him dying, either from an OD or suicide, or someone taking him out. Once I accepted this, I mean really accepted that this could happen I was able to let go of the worry.</p><p>You see, my husband and I have done everything we can for our son. We have afforded him numerous opportunities to get his life on track, to be a productive member of society. The problem was, he didn't want to be that. He and many of the adult children of parents on this site are going to live their lives the way they want to. Our input and influence do not register with them.</p><p>I'll admit, it's a very hard truth to swallow, that we have no control over our adult children and the choices they make.</p><p>For myself, I know that my husband and I did everything we could to try and help our son, but again, he didn't want it. There was a period of time that I played the "what if" game, what if we had done this or that, then maybe........................</p><p>I had to let it go. I had to accept that we had done all we could, there was no more.</p><p>I had to take my life back.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are seeking out ways to learn how to cope and deal with what you are going through. The most important thing is that you are taking care of yourself. Take time to be good to yourself. It's also important to take time just for you and hubby. My husband and I used to take long drives on the weekend. Just get in the car and go. We had one rule, no discussing our son or his issues.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are here with us. Please keep us posted as to how things are going.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you......................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 670895, member: 18516"] Welcome LSM, I am so glad you found us and thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry for what you are experiencing with your step son. He is truly blessed that you care so much about him. It's a difficult journey dealing with an adult child that has issues gaining control over their life but you are not alone. I remember these feelings all to well. Each day when I was driving home from work I would be about a mile from my house and the anxiety would start. As soon as I turned onto my street I would get a sick feeling in my stomach because I never knew what I would find when I got home. Many times I would walk into my house to find my son had ransacked it, he was always looking for money to steal. This is no way to live. Our homes are supposed to be our sanctuary, a place of peace where we can recharge. This is understandable. We have all been there. I have learned that no amount of my worrying will change a thing. I had to think of the worst possible thing that could happen to my son which was him dying, either from an OD or suicide, or someone taking him out. Once I accepted this, I mean really accepted that this could happen I was able to let go of the worry. You see, my husband and I have done everything we can for our son. We have afforded him numerous opportunities to get his life on track, to be a productive member of society. The problem was, he didn't want to be that. He and many of the adult children of parents on this site are going to live their lives the way they want to. Our input and influence do not register with them. I'll admit, it's a very hard truth to swallow, that we have no control over our adult children and the choices they make. For myself, I know that my husband and I did everything we could to try and help our son, but again, he didn't want it. There was a period of time that I played the "what if" game, what if we had done this or that, then maybe........................ I had to let it go. I had to accept that we had done all we could, there was no more. I had to take my life back. I'm glad you are seeking out ways to learn how to cope and deal with what you are going through. The most important thing is that you are taking care of yourself. Take time to be good to yourself. It's also important to take time just for you and hubby. My husband and I used to take long drives on the weekend. Just get in the car and go. We had one rule, no discussing our son or his issues. I'm glad you are here with us. Please keep us posted as to how things are going. ((HUGS)) to you...................... [/QUOTE]
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