I am a new member and have been so encouraged by all the notes. Just knowing that it's not me, that I'm not the only one who has a difficult child is such an encouragement! My 15 yo son has been running away, skipping school (if I can get him up for school), doing drugs and alcohol and is emotionally detached from the rest of the family. But, in my effort to try to see the positive in things, I guess I can be thankful that he is not involved in any criminal activity at this time. It's just a case of him wanting to be with his friends 24/7 and not giving much thought to his future. He intends to drop school when he's 16 (at the end of the year), but he says he'll get his GED. But, it will probably be too "hard" for him and he'll give up as always. I can't remember who just posted "Hanging up the Armor", but I can certainly identify with everything you said. The crazy thing is my husband and I have to keep putting up with our difficult child's behavior because it will be "neglect" if we didn't allow him to come back home. I truly believe that he needs to hit rock bottom to see how good he has it. For the first time in my 20 years of marriage and kids, I'm not looking forward to the holidays. Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories!