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Finally threw down the gauntlet....
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 43712" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I understand about him refusing any program now...but the emphasis is on "now". Should he "see the light" before he is an adult, it would be beneficial for you and wife to be able to say</p><p>"we have researched the places that seem to be most effective in</p><p>helping young men like you and XYZ is worth a visit". As a parent who had to make choices "under the gun", I assure you that</p><p>researching at your leisure is far better. It will even help</p><p>you get through these difficult times.</p><p></p><p>My Dad joined AA when he reached his bottom around the age of 40</p><p>or so (when I was unexpectedly added to the family) and over the</p><p>next thirty years I learned alot about addiction. Very often it</p><p>is not possible to change into recovery mode in the home environ-ment...even when the family loves the addict. Statistically I</p><p>believe that is more true with juveniles. It is not a negative</p><p>reflection on the family. It is just necessary to focus solely</p><p>on recovery.</p><p></p><p>by the way, I'm still not able to integrate my knowledge from my adult</p><p>Dads participation with my parenting of easy child/difficult child. It has now been</p><p>years and I still see my childs addiction differently. Not too</p><p>bright...but true.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, good thoughts are still floating North to you and yours. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 43712, member: 35"] I understand about him refusing any program now...but the emphasis is on "now". Should he "see the light" before he is an adult, it would be beneficial for you and wife to be able to say "we have researched the places that seem to be most effective in helping young men like you and XYZ is worth a visit". As a parent who had to make choices "under the gun", I assure you that researching at your leisure is far better. It will even help you get through these difficult times. My Dad joined AA when he reached his bottom around the age of 40 or so (when I was unexpectedly added to the family) and over the next thirty years I learned alot about addiction. Very often it is not possible to change into recovery mode in the home environ-ment...even when the family loves the addict. Statistically I believe that is more true with juveniles. It is not a negative reflection on the family. It is just necessary to focus solely on recovery. by the way, I'm still not able to integrate my knowledge from my adult Dads participation with my parenting of easy child/difficult child. It has now been years and I still see my childs addiction differently. Not too bright...but true. Meanwhile, good thoughts are still floating North to you and yours. DDD [/QUOTE]
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