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Finally visited difficult child, his dad may get custody?
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 42116"><p>My brother is 4 years older than me. Our father was physically abusive to him, but not to me. But, I saw it all. I used to cry when my brother would get in trouble because I was afraid for him. When my parents separated my brother was 13 and at first he had nothing to do with my dad. That gradually changed and my brother and my dad became more like buddies. My father was supplying my brother with alcohol and pot at 14. When my mother remarried and moved out of state my brother was 15. My brother stayed with my dad. By that time he had outgrown my dad and was into weight lifting. They would get into fistfights. There was a hole in every door in the house. I haven't had anything at all to do with my dad in 8 years. Now my brother won't speak to me because of that. Go figure.</p><p></p><p>It's not uncommon for women to seek out partners who are a lot like their father. It's their way to try to recreate the situation and "fix" it. Maybe for boys/men it's different? Maybe he's still trying to "fix" things? I don't know. Just thinking out loud...throwing some things out there. I'm not saying that it's healthy. Just hypothesizing about what's going on in that head of his.</p><p></p><p>by the way, I'm glad you were able to get yourself centered and visit difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 42116"] My brother is 4 years older than me. Our father was physically abusive to him, but not to me. But, I saw it all. I used to cry when my brother would get in trouble because I was afraid for him. When my parents separated my brother was 13 and at first he had nothing to do with my dad. That gradually changed and my brother and my dad became more like buddies. My father was supplying my brother with alcohol and pot at 14. When my mother remarried and moved out of state my brother was 15. My brother stayed with my dad. By that time he had outgrown my dad and was into weight lifting. They would get into fistfights. There was a hole in every door in the house. I haven't had anything at all to do with my dad in 8 years. Now my brother won't speak to me because of that. Go figure. It's not uncommon for women to seek out partners who are a lot like their father. It's their way to try to recreate the situation and "fix" it. Maybe for boys/men it's different? Maybe he's still trying to "fix" things? I don't know. Just thinking out loud...throwing some things out there. I'm not saying that it's healthy. Just hypothesizing about what's going on in that head of his. by the way, I'm glad you were able to get yourself centered and visit difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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