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<blockquote data-quote="judi" data-source="post: 58657" data-attributes="member: 148"><p>Good luck. I speak from personal experience...I was adopted in KC, MO 46 years ago at the age of almost 2 years. I met my birth mother in 1990. Found out that drugs and alcohol were big in her life. She had gotten into some kind of DUI accident where a death and lawsuit ensued and was still living with those consequences. I kept in touch for a year or so, but she wanted more than I could give. </p><p></p><p>Fast forward to 2006 when my birth half-brother calls me and wants to meet. (I have known of him since 1990 - he is 3 years younger and also given up for adoption). We all met in KC, MO last year and I have again kept in contact with everyone. </p><p></p><p>Now...I went to visit birthmom last month as part of a business trip and she wanted me to meet her sister who knew nothing of my existence!!! The sister was rude and totally out of control and I left there with a bad taste in my mouth. </p><p></p><p>Now...its back to silence and no contact and for that I'm glad. Giving birth doesn't make you a mother. </p><p></p><p>At any rate, my advice is to go very very slow and don't expect anything. Then...whatever relationship you get will be a gift. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="judi, post: 58657, member: 148"] Good luck. I speak from personal experience...I was adopted in KC, MO 46 years ago at the age of almost 2 years. I met my birth mother in 1990. Found out that drugs and alcohol were big in her life. She had gotten into some kind of DUI accident where a death and lawsuit ensued and was still living with those consequences. I kept in touch for a year or so, but she wanted more than I could give. Fast forward to 2006 when my birth half-brother calls me and wants to meet. (I have known of him since 1990 - he is 3 years younger and also given up for adoption). We all met in KC, MO last year and I have again kept in contact with everyone. Now...I went to visit birthmom last month as part of a business trip and she wanted me to meet her sister who knew nothing of my existence!!! The sister was rude and totally out of control and I left there with a bad taste in my mouth. Now...its back to silence and no contact and for that I'm glad. Giving birth doesn't make you a mother. At any rate, my advice is to go very very slow and don't expect anything. Then...whatever relationship you get will be a gift. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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