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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 60687" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Lynnp, you said, "<em> have always felt that if I can't give to this site than I shouldn't be asking for a lot of your time" - don't feel guilty at dumping on us. We don't tot up hours someone's asked for help vs hours they've been there to support someone else. besides, often in answering your problems, someone else can be helped. Sometimes by just reading about it.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Example: Husker, right above this post of mine. Tammy, you need to post your own new thread on your own issue because using Lynn's, you run the risk of being overlooked. Although I do see similarities.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Both of you - the out of control anxiety can also trigger rages. Not just depression. I know, we live with it. We're constantly dealing with difficult child 3 especially, and his anxiety, but all three of my 'at home' children can have runaway anxiety and explode, sometimes at the same time. Not a pretty sight. An argument between two of them with each other, or with husband (it's me, less often) can set off a tantrum in one which can be echoed by another and they all go down like ninepins.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>MWM has made a very useful suggestion. As usual, she got in before me with it, I was going to say the same thing. Because she & I both live with the effects of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in the household, we know just how far-reaching is the scope of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and the impact it can have on the behaviour of our kids.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Anxiety can do incredible things. It can also link in with depression.</em></p><p><em>Picture a kid in a panic - anyone in a panic, really. Imagine being in a room with someone who is terrified of spiders and you're standing between them and the door when a spider drops down from the ceiling. If you don't move fast you'll get knocked down in the rush. And so often, the anxiety in our kids is being heightened by what we're doing or saying, so the more we 'push', the worse the behaviour until they rage.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Both of you - grab a copy of "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. I thought, with all my experience raising my sisters' kids before I ever had any of my own, plus my early teaching training, that I could handle any parenting crisis. Not so. I've found I have to unlearn a lot of things which I used to consider as the right way to manage. Now I've had to learn to be intuitive, to be inventive, to think outside the square and above all, to find out what makes my kids tick.</em></p><p><em>You can also find some discussion on this book in Early Childhood. But do get your hands on it. It's not a cure but it IS a darn good management system.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Tammy, you need to begin your own thread about your daughter, you need answers in a different direction.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Lynnp, check out the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire on <a href="http://www.childbrain.com." target="_blank">http://www.childbrain.com.</a> You can't use it to diagnose, but it can give you a heads up, plus you can take the printout along to a doctor's appointment for their thoughts on the matter.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>But never underestimate the power of anxiety, to have some surprising and devastating consequences.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Marg</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 60687, member: 1991"] Lynnp, you said, "[I] have always felt that if I can't give to this site than I shouldn't be asking for a lot of your time" - don't feel guilty at dumping on us. We don't tot up hours someone's asked for help vs hours they've been there to support someone else. besides, often in answering your problems, someone else can be helped. Sometimes by just reading about it. Example: Husker, right above this post of mine. Tammy, you need to post your own new thread on your own issue because using Lynn's, you run the risk of being overlooked. Although I do see similarities. Both of you - the out of control anxiety can also trigger rages. Not just depression. I know, we live with it. We're constantly dealing with difficult child 3 especially, and his anxiety, but all three of my 'at home' children can have runaway anxiety and explode, sometimes at the same time. Not a pretty sight. An argument between two of them with each other, or with husband (it's me, less often) can set off a tantrum in one which can be echoed by another and they all go down like ninepins. MWM has made a very useful suggestion. As usual, she got in before me with it, I was going to say the same thing. Because she & I both live with the effects of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in the household, we know just how far-reaching is the scope of Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) and the impact it can have on the behaviour of our kids. Anxiety can do incredible things. It can also link in with depression. Picture a kid in a panic - anyone in a panic, really. Imagine being in a room with someone who is terrified of spiders and you're standing between them and the door when a spider drops down from the ceiling. If you don't move fast you'll get knocked down in the rush. And so often, the anxiety in our kids is being heightened by what we're doing or saying, so the more we 'push', the worse the behaviour until they rage. Both of you - grab a copy of "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. I thought, with all my experience raising my sisters' kids before I ever had any of my own, plus my early teaching training, that I could handle any parenting crisis. Not so. I've found I have to unlearn a lot of things which I used to consider as the right way to manage. Now I've had to learn to be intuitive, to be inventive, to think outside the square and above all, to find out what makes my kids tick. You can also find some discussion on this book in Early Childhood. But do get your hands on it. It's not a cure but it IS a darn good management system. Tammy, you need to begin your own thread about your daughter, you need answers in a different direction. Lynnp, check out the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire on [url="http://www.childbrain.com."]http://www.childbrain.com.[/url] You can't use it to diagnose, but it can give you a heads up, plus you can take the printout along to a doctor's appointment for their thoughts on the matter. But never underestimate the power of anxiety, to have some surprising and devastating consequences. Marg[/I] [/QUOTE]
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