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First family therapy session a disaster!
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 50180" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Having had a child in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having had her blow up because I acknowledged I did not trust her, I totally side with the therapist. Your son tried to manipulate the session. "My son took the comment very badly and responded that he didn't even want to come home if he wasn't going to be trusted." Well, trust is earned. You don't just get it because you want it.</p><p></p><p>He then threatens to have it his way or the highway. He tried to box the you and the therapist into a corner. His therapist was not letting that happen, nor should he have. He didn't say your son wasn't coming home. He suggested that if this was your son's attitude, then he SHOULDN'T come home. </p><p></p><p>If you let your son get away with no more therapy sessions, you will have lost. So will your son. His coming home will not be easy. You need to make sure your son understands that there will some very firm rules in place. That he will have to earn your trust, your respect. The one thing he will have free and clear is your love. The rest he will have to earn. </p><p></p><p>Sorry, but I've been in your shoes except Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was not court-ordered for us. If you don't stand firm now and help him understand that coming home is a privilege and can be revoked, that he must work to get home and must work to stay home, the odds are he will go back to his old ways.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 50180, member: 3626"] Having had a child in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having had her blow up because I acknowledged I did not trust her, I totally side with the therapist. Your son tried to manipulate the session. "My son took the comment very badly and responded that he didn't even want to come home if he wasn't going to be trusted." Well, trust is earned. You don't just get it because you want it. He then threatens to have it his way or the highway. He tried to box the you and the therapist into a corner. His therapist was not letting that happen, nor should he have. He didn't say your son wasn't coming home. He suggested that if this was your son's attitude, then he SHOULDN'T come home. If you let your son get away with no more therapy sessions, you will have lost. So will your son. His coming home will not be easy. You need to make sure your son understands that there will some very firm rules in place. That he will have to earn your trust, your respect. The one thing he will have free and clear is your love. The rest he will have to earn. Sorry, but I've been in your shoes except Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was not court-ordered for us. If you don't stand firm now and help him understand that coming home is a privilege and can be revoked, that he must work to get home and must work to stay home, the odds are he will go back to his old ways. [/QUOTE]
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