So, please correct me if I am out of place here. We went to our first family therapy. First it was easy child and I with therapist, talking about how explosive difficult child can be, and how rigid he is. Basically her just getting to know us. Then she went and got difficult child, and we talked about his triggers. He did not recognize anything as a trigger, and really could not even reflect back to times that he was rigid and out of line. Not news to me. He was able to list some calming things, things he does there, but cannot reflect to things that we could do here. Cannot connect the dots. WTH!!!! I know what his triggers are. I don't need to spend a half hour going over them. And really? You want me to not trigger him???? What do you think we have been doing for years? NOT triggering him. Isn't it time that HE try to learn not to get triggered?? Next week I will go by myself, and me thinks therapist and I need to have a little talk. Life does not revolve around difficult child, and if possible? He needs to learn this. Everyone tells me how complicated he is. Ok, and I needed tohear this why? I have been living it, I can tell YOU all about it. In some ways he even contradicts himself, what he needs can trigger him. Yep, I knew that too. Part of this placement was supposed to be a medication wash, that did not happen, and for him to learn coping skills. I can see some progress, but really? I think the appointment today just irked me. My life, my families life has revolved around him or s2bx for too long. It is not healthy for any of us.