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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662870" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>PASA, a lot of what your son needs is already in place to settle himself, regain functioning and recover. Now he will do so. This is the hardest time I think because the shock/emergency phase has ended and the reality is seen and felt. He will get better.</p><p></p><p>So will you. Pasa, you need support. You have PTSD-type symptoms too, I think. This was a horrible experience. Honor yourself for what you have been through. This is not a head ache. This is a trauma. It will not soon get better. You are in the beginnings. Life must change now, so that you can move through this too.</p><p></p><p>I think above and beyond here, you need to try to connect with parents' who have, and whose children have suffered similar traumatic events.</p><p></p><p>There must be a parent's group of children in similar circumstances to you. Can you establish phone or internet contact? Where ever they are ...try to reach out.</p><p></p><p>You need to get a good therapist, and possibly to get on medication, I think. This would be too much for anyone. You have been traumatized too.</p><p></p><p>Your son was in a University Hospital. Do they have support and treatment for you there? Psychiatry, Therapist, Support Group??</p><p></p><p>Now is the time for exercise.</p><p></p><p>Now is the time to do think about doing all kinds of nurturing activities, especially with other women. I like the textile arts and needlework. Done with other women it is real therapy. Try.</p><p></p><p>Since the beginning of time women have mended together by working with their hands in a circle. Needlework with other women can be a form of loving meditation.</p><p></p><p>Spinning and weaving in particular are very therapeutic. And you would learn a new art form.</p><p></p><p>I would call the Feds. Monday. Actually, I would call Loretta Lynch, the new attorney general. Right to her. You will not get through but it will get attention. Ask for an investigation like what is happening in all the police abuse cases throughout the country.</p><p></p><p>This is no different. Regardless of your son's racial identity, children are a protected class.</p><p></p><p>Through calling the AG you will speak to people. Get names. Each person will tell you about 3 more. You will soon no how to proceed.</p><p></p><p>I think if you immerse yourself into fighting this, it will be a form of self-help.</p><p></p><p>I would also call the AG in your state.</p><p></p><p>The Prison Law Office in San Quentin, CA (not the prison). While they handle class action lawsuits they might be able to those handling abuse cases for individual plaintiffs.</p><p></p><p>There is an organization called Texas Civil Rights Project and within that the Prisoners Rights Program, including those in juvenile prisons. They do few cases, mainly those that will affect many people, but would also be a place to start for referrals.</p><p></p><p>Another idea, to start with. Law schools often have "clinics," in certain areas of law, such as prison, elder law, etc. I am thinking of this type of thing as a place to start for referrals.</p><p></p><p>PASA, I for one am not surprised your son is crying and jumpy. Wouldn't you be? What happened to him was outside the realm of normal human experience. He was terrorized.This is the normal and reasonable response to what happened to him. You would want this response. He is beginning the first phase of healing. Not defending. Not covering up. We all start where we are. This is not a bad thing.</p><p></p><p>Finally, those treatment team meetings are meaningless. Do not take it seriously.</p><p></p><p>The important thing is that the psychologist is appalled and deeply cares.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662870, member: 18958"] PASA, a lot of what your son needs is already in place to settle himself, regain functioning and recover. Now he will do so. This is the hardest time I think because the shock/emergency phase has ended and the reality is seen and felt. He will get better. So will you. Pasa, you need support. You have PTSD-type symptoms too, I think. This was a horrible experience. Honor yourself for what you have been through. This is not a head ache. This is a trauma. It will not soon get better. You are in the beginnings. Life must change now, so that you can move through this too. I think above and beyond here, you need to try to connect with parents' who have, and whose children have suffered similar traumatic events. There must be a parent's group of children in similar circumstances to you. Can you establish phone or internet contact? Where ever they are ...try to reach out. You need to get a good therapist, and possibly to get on medication, I think. This would be too much for anyone. You have been traumatized too. Your son was in a University Hospital. Do they have support and treatment for you there? Psychiatry, Therapist, Support Group?? Now is the time for exercise. Now is the time to do think about doing all kinds of nurturing activities, especially with other women. I like the textile arts and needlework. Done with other women it is real therapy. Try. Since the beginning of time women have mended together by working with their hands in a circle. Needlework with other women can be a form of loving meditation. Spinning and weaving in particular are very therapeutic. And you would learn a new art form. I would call the Feds. Monday. Actually, I would call Loretta Lynch, the new attorney general. Right to her. You will not get through but it will get attention. Ask for an investigation like what is happening in all the police abuse cases throughout the country. This is no different. Regardless of your son's racial identity, children are a protected class. Through calling the AG you will speak to people. Get names. Each person will tell you about 3 more. You will soon no how to proceed. I think if you immerse yourself into fighting this, it will be a form of self-help. I would also call the AG in your state. The Prison Law Office in San Quentin, CA (not the prison). While they handle class action lawsuits they might be able to those handling abuse cases for individual plaintiffs. There is an organization called Texas Civil Rights Project and within that the Prisoners Rights Program, including those in juvenile prisons. They do few cases, mainly those that will affect many people, but would also be a place to start for referrals. Another idea, to start with. Law schools often have "clinics," in certain areas of law, such as prison, elder law, etc. I am thinking of this type of thing as a place to start for referrals. PASA, I for one am not surprised your son is crying and jumpy. Wouldn't you be? What happened to him was outside the realm of normal human experience. He was terrorized.This is the normal and reasonable response to what happened to him. You would want this response. He is beginning the first phase of healing. Not defending. Not covering up. We all start where we are. This is not a bad thing. Finally, those treatment team meetings are meaningless. Do not take it seriously. The important thing is that the psychologist is appalled and deeply cares. [/QUOTE]
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