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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 703281" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi A Dad. Is it late night where you live? I always wonder where in the world you live. My guess has varied between some country in Eastern Europe to North Africa to even Greece. Am I anywhere close?</p><p></p><p>Your written English is close to perfect, although I recall you saying you are not a native speaker.</p><p></p><p>You know we only speak Spanish at home. And my son and I speak Portuguese too, except my Portuguese has collapsed, because the Spanish is now dominant. But somehow I never imagined you from Latin America.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, to the point: I always read your posts twice, at least, because of the good and realistic thinking they contain.</p><p></p><p>We have been through this before you and I: I got control over my own life through education. Many, many, many years of it. As I look back--I know there were so many other better things I could have done with those years.</p><p></p><p>So I am in absolute agreement with you. My thinking about school is knee-jerk.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, in this economy where I live, life is very marginal and difficult without an in demand skill. College is unnecessary but some expertise and skill that people need is almost a requisite to survive beyond sustenance-level.</p><p></p><p>My son will inherit money from me, in the form of property, g-d willing. I had been hopeful that we could teach him to manage it and maintain it, because if he could do this, he would have enough to live on and a home. Not to live luxuriously, but adequately.</p><p></p><p>I am reminded again that the desire is that he be <em>in some way productive.</em> But again, you are right. To push him to go through the rigors of school or training, for what? To please me? Just because I did it? Of course, you are right. He has told me more than once? <u>Mom. I am not you.</u></p><p><u></u></p><p>One reason I turn to the idea of college is that he could just do it. Go. A community college, anybody can go to. Handled. He has something productive to do. And it will not interfere with his SSI.</p><p></p><p>He fears working at a paid job because he fears losing the government support he gets. If he works and earns beyond a certain amount, he will lose the benefit, after a time. He likes the benefit, more than he likes the idea of being productive. Which is a problem, you can well see.</p><p></p><p>So college avoids this potential problem and conflict.</p><p></p><p>M does not want my son to work with him anymore. M says my son uses the excuse of working for him, as an excuse not to do for himself. And M said: <em>I need his help, but I do not want to give him the opportunity to use the fact he is helping me, as an excuse to not help himself. </em></p><p></p><p>Take care A dad. And thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 703281, member: 18958"] Hi A Dad. Is it late night where you live? I always wonder where in the world you live. My guess has varied between some country in Eastern Europe to North Africa to even Greece. Am I anywhere close? Your written English is close to perfect, although I recall you saying you are not a native speaker. You know we only speak Spanish at home. And my son and I speak Portuguese too, except my Portuguese has collapsed, because the Spanish is now dominant. But somehow I never imagined you from Latin America. Anyway, to the point: I always read your posts twice, at least, because of the good and realistic thinking they contain. We have been through this before you and I: I got control over my own life through education. Many, many, many years of it. As I look back--I know there were so many other better things I could have done with those years. So I am in absolute agreement with you. My thinking about school is knee-jerk. The thing is, in this economy where I live, life is very marginal and difficult without an in demand skill. College is unnecessary but some expertise and skill that people need is almost a requisite to survive beyond sustenance-level. My son will inherit money from me, in the form of property, g-d willing. I had been hopeful that we could teach him to manage it and maintain it, because if he could do this, he would have enough to live on and a home. Not to live luxuriously, but adequately. I am reminded again that the desire is that he be [I]in some way productive.[/I] But again, you are right. To push him to go through the rigors of school or training, for what? To please me? Just because I did it? Of course, you are right. He has told me more than once? [U]Mom. I am not you. [/U] One reason I turn to the idea of college is that he could just do it. Go. A community college, anybody can go to. Handled. He has something productive to do. And it will not interfere with his SSI. He fears working at a paid job because he fears losing the government support he gets. If he works and earns beyond a certain amount, he will lose the benefit, after a time. He likes the benefit, more than he likes the idea of being productive. Which is a problem, you can well see. So college avoids this potential problem and conflict. M does not want my son to work with him anymore. M says my son uses the excuse of working for him, as an excuse not to do for himself. And M said: [I]I need his help, but I do not want to give him the opportunity to use the fact he is helping me, as an excuse to not help himself. [/I] Take care A dad. And thank you. [/QUOTE]
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