ok, here goes. I requested a Full case study on my 12 year old easy child daughter on Oct 23. Her background K-a bumpy ride for her personally and a first year teacher did not help. 1st- a nightmare after only one week, resulting in a FCS and qualifying only for Speech and Language. I determined that I would hold her back at this time, and she spent a year with me before returning the next year to first grade. Socially, doubling activities for a year, made it a godsend (I didn't know how to do it when I held difficult child 1 back in third grade) But I knew I had made the best choice for her. 1st-4th Speech and Language IEP/ Title 1 Reading with some classroom accommodations 5th-Discontinued Speech Services due to a pending move to a new school district and meeting expectations. Poor performance this year in a new SD for second semester, but made average grades. Went from new math to old fashioned math (worked). Went from free expression language arts classes to good old English (didn't work) 6th-Contacted by SD to request placement in Reading 180 program and modified class size "team". Great, they see a problem (poor attendance due to difficult child 1 and now difficult child 2), low grades, low state scores. Okay.. Then she starts really struggling. Hours of homework and tons of forgetfulness. I start hearing of RTI rather than discrepancy. Ugh. I research the different models. Ugh, I see benefits and limitations of both. difficult child 1 was SE from 2 1/2 yo until his father discontinued services at 16. I cried more over this than the numerous criminal charges. I cried because I knew it would help him get a real education, and the possible medical help he has always needed. I know the past SE policy, the arguments, the accommodations, the process. Current boyfriend says she is too 'social';, she needs to buckle down, needs to remember, needs to stop being so busy on the weekends, needs 2 hours of tutoring daily, etc. by the way, boyfriend has no kids. & boyfriend does not understand a Learning Disability (LD). I know she has something that makes her special. What parent of a Learning Disability (LD) kid doesnt have the moments of 'thank god, she finally remembered Some-thin!'; What parent of a S/L Learning Disability (LD) doesn't let their kid interrupt constantly because they know if they don't, the kid will forget what they had to say, and break out in tears? But of course a parent with a Learning Disability (LD) kid will try over and over, patiently, to assist the child in 'doing better', 'finding/teaching a better way', or plopping themselves down to 'cope' at a place like this forum? Well, back to RTI. I know a daily resource class is probably necessary. But easy child 3 doesn't want to participate. I also know that even with the resource class, she is still falling further and further behind, in all subjects. I just think that a CS will finally show a S/L Learning Disability (LD) as well as other LDs. difficult child 1 had five to six different Learning Disability (LD)'s, and easy child 3 has the exact same tendencies. Some weakness showed in her first grade CS, but they were not prominent enough to justify SE. Just test her and I can go from there!!! But no, I think I have at least 8-12 weeks of data discovery, followed by more failing test scores, frustration, followed by a complete shutdown of both of us. We have the same science/math teacher who doesn't have a math book for the kids to follow, and doesn't help the kids with learning difficulties READ her own directions thereby creating a 50% test score fail rate from the get go. We also have such poor worksheet formats that if my kid was dyslexic I would cram the paper down her throat. We have a SS teacher who says the only way kids learn her material is to create their own flash cards (yea right, flash THIS, kids who can't meet state expectations on writing, or with writing LDs, etc. can't make the darn flash cards). We have a SE floating teacher who wants to provide 'modified tests and modified cheat sheets', to build easy child 3's self esteem and assist her in memory retention. No! You ain't modifying any of your half @**ed curriculum's until you tell me WHY my child would need that --> full case study please???? You know what, I think this is just one OLD fashioned school district with people who just don't know any different. I asked for syllabus's only to be responded with 'we don't have those available for parents, but some teachers might have them up on the web site'. Blah, any kid with Learning Disability (LD)'s in reading should have the option of an accommodation to PRE-read their studies. Any kid struggling should not have even 4 tests in one day (imagine 4 f's in one day! get real!) Let me tell you something, I already think this school district doesnt do CS because they dont want the parents having the power to make sure they provide FAPE. Oh by the way, easy child 3 insists she does not have any problems at school, and she says she doesn't want anyone messing with her steam! Says she can get mad at people (steam like from a tea pot) all by her self. She says she doesn't have any reason to get mad at anyone. ROTFL...anybody who has a Learning Disability (LD) kid or similar knows how they can things all jumbled up. Its hilarious. But we have one fine Reading teacher and Reading 180 program. Vocab, sentence structure, spelling, and grammar is getting better. AR tests let her use her notes and books, but she still bombs each and every one at a 590L score. This superb teacher (mom of 8) tutors her every morning for about 30 minutes before school. Its definately helping so I can see the need for the resource class, I just hate to see her miss anymore daily class time since Reading 180 is a two hour class. Resource would mean missing an exploratory class the entire semester. Band sessions already mean missing one PE and one exploratory a week. Sheesh, were is there anymore time to catch her up? Any help on getting through the RTI tiers faster? Case law does show that CS should be performed if biological siblings also have SE services. Or explaining to boyfriend about LDs? I feel like I am fighting him just like the SD. Or anything else that can help a worrying mom out?