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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 677238" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Tish I can see where this upset son. He must have felt cornered and threatened. </p><p></p><p>You are all of you on the same page. Each of you has been trying for the same result. Your son, too. I think it would not be wrong for you to apologize, too. Your son must have felt that you escalated things. </p><p></p><p>While I can see why you did (and indeed it was the right thing, because everything now is on the table), can you see how he must have felt? If you are able to speak to your part, maybe your son will be more able to see his own.</p><p>I do not think all is lost. It was one interaction. A highly charged interaction, but it is not yet a pattern.</p><p></p><p>If it were me I would like to know what is behind the hostility of your son? Sure, he felt cornered and accused and reacted. But why would he turn against you like that? Could he resent your role with his son? Could he resent the fact that you and your husband saved everybody? Could he resent that it gives you power over him, which it certainly does? Power over whether or not he can parent his own child. </p><p></p><p>I think that whatever resentment he might be harboring needs to come out. I do not know how I would address it, though.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 677238, member: 18958"] Tish I can see where this upset son. He must have felt cornered and threatened. You are all of you on the same page. Each of you has been trying for the same result. Your son, too. I think it would not be wrong for you to apologize, too. Your son must have felt that you escalated things. While I can see why you did (and indeed it was the right thing, because everything now is on the table), can you see how he must have felt? If you are able to speak to your part, maybe your son will be more able to see his own. I do not think all is lost. It was one interaction. A highly charged interaction, but it is not yet a pattern. If it were me I would like to know what is behind the hostility of your son? Sure, he felt cornered and accused and reacted. But why would he turn against you like that? Could he resent your role with his son? Could he resent the fact that you and your husband saved everybody? Could he resent that it gives you power over him, which it certainly does? Power over whether or not he can parent his own child. I think that whatever resentment he might be harboring needs to come out. I do not know how I would address it, though. COPA [/QUOTE]
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