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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 685772" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I wouldnt even listen to that. The truth is there isnt a mom on earth who can deal with abuse, lies, watching horrible decisions and being a scapegoat. She is lucky you choose to talk to her at all. She abuses you and if she were mine, I would refuse to listen to any abuse. I'd hang up. I have done that when one of my sons used to get abusive and he learned that to talk to me, he has to be resoectful or the conversation will be over and I won't pick up the phone again for several days. I say,"when we can have a mutually respectful conversation, call. Until thrn, we need to calm down." +click+</p><p></p><p>Yes, he gets mad, but I won't hear it. Hes a man now and either talks to me like one or finds somebody else to insult. It wont be me. Yes, I do have less trouble interacting with his siblings. Any mother would. They are reasonable and kind and fun to talk to. I dont let him do the sibling comparison thing either. She is manipulating you. She knows full well that her sister is more pleasant. Your problem is you LISTEN to her abuse and believe her silly accusations. Cut her off or you'll spend the rest of your life feeling as is she controls you and crying. You cant change her or what she says, but you have 100 percent of control over how much abuse you will listen to. Your child or not, she abuses you. Would you let anyone else talk to you that way?</p><p></p><p>You didnt call her BECAUSE of how she treats you. Period. Who would aak for THAT? Too bad if shes angry. She can talk more easily to her friends? If she is mean to them, I doubt it, but if she can...GOOD. She is 40???? Shes a bit old to expect mommy care like she got at age ten. Let her bug her peers. She's too old to expect you to dry her tears and you're to old to handle a tantrum from a middle age woman. in my opinion you should not allow her your precious time to stress you out.</p><p></p><p>Now you are also a grown women, like your daughter. You can choose to continue to indulge your.daughter's abuse and we cant stop you. But unless YOU show guts and self respect to this daughter, plus set boundaries about her abuse, NOTHING will change. That is a guarantee. For your life to change for the better you need to make serious changes in managing this daughter. If you don't, you will be writing about how she abuses you and makes you feel guilty forever. I know its hard to change. But most of us did. There is no reason to listen to anybody's abuse of you for any length of time.</p><p></p><p>Her arguments are bsloney to make you feel guilty and as long as she can accomplish her goals, she wont stop. As long as you'll listen, she'll make you cry.</p><p></p><p>I hope soon you can embrace a you who puts her foot down on listening to abuse...because you are worth it. If you dont, well, abusers abuse. Its what they do.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs and good vibes. Stand strong. Youre a warrior mom; a soldier. Respect yourself!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 685772, member: 1550"] I wouldnt even listen to that. The truth is there isnt a mom on earth who can deal with abuse, lies, watching horrible decisions and being a scapegoat. She is lucky you choose to talk to her at all. She abuses you and if she were mine, I would refuse to listen to any abuse. I'd hang up. I have done that when one of my sons used to get abusive and he learned that to talk to me, he has to be resoectful or the conversation will be over and I won't pick up the phone again for several days. I say,"when we can have a mutually respectful conversation, call. Until thrn, we need to calm down." +click+ Yes, he gets mad, but I won't hear it. Hes a man now and either talks to me like one or finds somebody else to insult. It wont be me. Yes, I do have less trouble interacting with his siblings. Any mother would. They are reasonable and kind and fun to talk to. I dont let him do the sibling comparison thing either. She is manipulating you. She knows full well that her sister is more pleasant. Your problem is you LISTEN to her abuse and believe her silly accusations. Cut her off or you'll spend the rest of your life feeling as is she controls you and crying. You cant change her or what she says, but you have 100 percent of control over how much abuse you will listen to. Your child or not, she abuses you. Would you let anyone else talk to you that way? You didnt call her BECAUSE of how she treats you. Period. Who would aak for THAT? Too bad if shes angry. She can talk more easily to her friends? If she is mean to them, I doubt it, but if she can...GOOD. She is 40???? Shes a bit old to expect mommy care like she got at age ten. Let her bug her peers. She's too old to expect you to dry her tears and you're to old to handle a tantrum from a middle age woman. in my opinion you should not allow her your precious time to stress you out. Now you are also a grown women, like your daughter. You can choose to continue to indulge your.daughter's abuse and we cant stop you. But unless YOU show guts and self respect to this daughter, plus set boundaries about her abuse, NOTHING will change. That is a guarantee. For your life to change for the better you need to make serious changes in managing this daughter. If you don't, you will be writing about how she abuses you and makes you feel guilty forever. I know its hard to change. But most of us did. There is no reason to listen to anybody's abuse of you for any length of time. Her arguments are bsloney to make you feel guilty and as long as she can accomplish her goals, she wont stop. As long as you'll listen, she'll make you cry. I hope soon you can embrace a you who puts her foot down on listening to abuse...because you are worth it. If you dont, well, abusers abuse. Its what they do. Many hugs and good vibes. Stand strong. Youre a warrior mom; a soldier. Respect yourself!!! [/QUOTE]
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