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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 685785" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>They use our love against us and try to make us feel guilt so we will give in to their requests.</p><p></p><p>The best thing I ever did for my self and my son is learn to detach. It's painful in the beginning, but you deserve a life too.</p><p></p><p>My son actually went no contact with me, threatening suicide, I called the police and they did check on him and he told them he was not suicidal. The emotional blackmail of not supporting his lifestyle of drugs, alcohol, unemployment was ruining my health.</p><p></p><p>Whatever guilt we feel from their childhood (I had a lot!) learn to deal with it, it happened and you can not change that. Our children are adults or we would not be posting on this forum.</p><p></p><p>I can say, I received so much criticism from friends and family for abandoning my son. So, I stopped discussing him, his sister and my hubby are the only ones that understand.</p><p></p><p>My life is so much better, my health is better, the pain of detachment from the lies, drama, stealing from me, drug and alcohol use, fights with girlfriend where she would call me then he would call me, was so worth it.</p><p></p><p>I know my son was living in the woods with not in a penny in his pockets fighting alcohol withdrawal. And there was absolutely nothing I could do. Worry is not the answer!</p><p></p><p>Hugs and blessings!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 685785, member: 13558"] They use our love against us and try to make us feel guilt so we will give in to their requests. The best thing I ever did for my self and my son is learn to detach. It's painful in the beginning, but you deserve a life too. My son actually went no contact with me, threatening suicide, I called the police and they did check on him and he told them he was not suicidal. The emotional blackmail of not supporting his lifestyle of drugs, alcohol, unemployment was ruining my health. Whatever guilt we feel from their childhood (I had a lot!) learn to deal with it, it happened and you can not change that. Our children are adults or we would not be posting on this forum. I can say, I received so much criticism from friends and family for abandoning my son. So, I stopped discussing him, his sister and my hubby are the only ones that understand. My life is so much better, my health is better, the pain of detachment from the lies, drama, stealing from me, drug and alcohol use, fights with girlfriend where she would call me then he would call me, was so worth it. I know my son was living in the woods with not in a penny in his pockets fighting alcohol withdrawal. And there was absolutely nothing I could do. Worry is not the answer! Hugs and blessings! [/QUOTE]
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