Hi everyone, It has been a long time since I have posted. The last time, we were really in a bad place and nothing seemed to truly help. All of you were VERY supportive and helpful. I cannot say how much that helped me stay sane. my difficult child has made a serious turn for the worse about 6 weeks ago. We avoided being admitted but was able to finally have a true diagnosis. Having a good Dr. has made quite the difference. This is were relieved comes in. We now truly know what my difficult child is coping with and we know what path to take. (bi-polar) My frustration is my other child. When life got challenging for my difficult child, my 11 started to show some serious signs for her own needs - specifically school went from "A" and "B" to "D" and "F" quality on homework and tests... she is quick to snap and people and is walking around with a chip on her shoulder. She refuses to speak with ANYONE about our difficult child and the stressful house she has lived in this past 8 weeks. TO bring her to a social worker, psychologist or any other mental health professional was my idea, but she pretty much told me I would hae to force her to go and she will not speak to anyone... I know she needs help coping with the envirnment she has been living in, but she wont let us help her... any suggestions?