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<blockquote data-quote="seek" data-source="post: 714643" data-attributes="member: 22002"><p>No. I have no other grandchildren. This is it.</p><p></p><p>If I "care," then I am sucked into his drama. I DO care - and for that reason, cannot escape this hell.</p><p></p><p>I know I can't control him.</p><p></p><p>My big problem is being attached to hope when he is in "recovery." He comes around and everything is peachy - and I, of course, want to believe that and that "this time it will be different." I don't know how to have a relationship with him, even when he is "well," because it doesn't last.</p><p></p><p>The time before this one - I had good boundaries - didn't let him in the house, etc., but I was softening - went out to lunch with him, etc.</p><p></p><p>I feel this is Hell!</p><p></p><p>I don't know what I did to deserve to have this in my life (and yes, that is my belief).</p><p></p><p>He was a good kid - I think he suffered lots of abuse and he is sensitive - as a child I was always "there" for him, because other people were not. So there is a bond.</p><p></p><p>It's just disappointing when people refuse to learn from mistakes and do the same things over and over (talking about him, but realize also me because I get hopeful).</p><p></p><p>Roller coaster</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seek, post: 714643, member: 22002"] No. I have no other grandchildren. This is it. If I "care," then I am sucked into his drama. I DO care - and for that reason, cannot escape this hell. I know I can't control him. My big problem is being attached to hope when he is in "recovery." He comes around and everything is peachy - and I, of course, want to believe that and that "this time it will be different." I don't know how to have a relationship with him, even when he is "well," because it doesn't last. The time before this one - I had good boundaries - didn't let him in the house, etc., but I was softening - went out to lunch with him, etc. I feel this is Hell! I don't know what I did to deserve to have this in my life (and yes, that is my belief). He was a good kid - I think he suffered lots of abuse and he is sensitive - as a child I was always "there" for him, because other people were not. So there is a bond. It's just disappointing when people refuse to learn from mistakes and do the same things over and over (talking about him, but realize also me because I get hopeful). Roller coaster [/QUOTE]
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