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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 714647" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Seek</p><p></p><p>Have you ever gotten therapy for yourself? Through therapy I have learned to establish firm boundaries with our son. </p><p></p><p>He is one of my favorite people on this earth. I love him very much and I care about what happens to him very much.</p><p></p><p>You are confusing loving/caring with being in a constant state of worry about your grandson and IF he will make the right decisions. He is very young. Even younger than my son. </p><p></p><p>I finally realized that me suffering or worrying about what my son was going to do was NOT helping him one bit. It was not helping me at all. I cannot control the outcome. I cannot control his choices. I cannot control his life.</p><p></p><p>Instead I decided to embrace the good in my life. I am fortunate to have a wonderful husband and friendships that I cherish. But if I did not have these things I certainly would be looking for happiness and meaning in MY life.</p><p></p><p>It may seem cold but it isn't. It's survival. It's letting go of things we cannot control. We can only control our own lives.</p><p></p><p>I do not have a relationship with my son right now because I am done suffering. I do not know how this all will end. I do pray daily that he will stay on a good path and be the man that God intended for him to be and the man that I KNOW he can be. I just cannot control any of it.</p><p></p><p>I do hope that you think about therapy or reaching out in some way so you can put all of this into perspective and find happiness and peace for yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 714647, member: 15032"] Seek Have you ever gotten therapy for yourself? Through therapy I have learned to establish firm boundaries with our son. He is one of my favorite people on this earth. I love him very much and I care about what happens to him very much. You are confusing loving/caring with being in a constant state of worry about your grandson and IF he will make the right decisions. He is very young. Even younger than my son. I finally realized that me suffering or worrying about what my son was going to do was NOT helping him one bit. It was not helping me at all. I cannot control the outcome. I cannot control his choices. I cannot control his life. Instead I decided to embrace the good in my life. I am fortunate to have a wonderful husband and friendships that I cherish. But if I did not have these things I certainly would be looking for happiness and meaning in MY life. It may seem cold but it isn't. It's survival. It's letting go of things we cannot control. We can only control our own lives. I do not have a relationship with my son right now because I am done suffering. I do not know how this all will end. I do pray daily that he will stay on a good path and be the man that God intended for him to be and the man that I KNOW he can be. I just cannot control any of it. I do hope that you think about therapy or reaching out in some way so you can put all of this into perspective and find happiness and peace for yourself. [/QUOTE]
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