Star*
call 911........call 911
Hi all,
I was sitting quietly listening to a group of women talk and laugh. They were having a good time and talking about seemingly nothing. Against the wall was another woman intently listening, but never joining in or responding. I thought it was odd, so I asked her why she wasn't joining in and her comment made me realize a lot of things. She said "I don't fit."
I asked her why she didn't fit. She told me that they all seemed so much smarter than her, and had quick comebacks or snappy quips and she just didn't feel anyone would want to listen to her say anything." Again I found myself asking WHY? And she said "Listen to them - I wouldn't know where to jump in or how to begin, besides I don't fit."
I stood by her and listened to the conversation and started my own sub-conversation with her regarding the conversation that was going on where she felt she did not FIT. After a while I gradually introduced her comments into the group and she was so shocked to see that the other women ACTUALLY listened to what she had to say, and AGREED. I looked down at her and said "Where don't you fit?" She smiled and then one of the other women asked HER a direct question and she gave an answer and then they said "Move over here you're too far away". When I left they were all talking - and she fit.
Sometimes we're not going to fit, we disagree with what is being said or can't find a way to communicate up to what you may think is a standard of commenting. It's a backwards way of thinking. If you have something to say - say it. Dont' worry if it's not as funny or clever or genious to what you're comparing it to, because a lot of times it's better to have MORE people commenting (than lurking)
I'm curious now, as to how many people who usually lurk and never leave a comment will be tempted to come out and say hello and find out that they too....FIT....just as much as any of us.
Belive me when you're a Star you dont' fit into a square hole or a round one either - but I like being different.
First time posters....come out and say hello. :wink: Your thoughts and comments are just as important as everyone elses. Doesn't matter if you have bad grammar, cant spell (have you seen our kids' homework?) We're just glad to have you here - a soft place to land and a nice place to fit. (or not :smile:)
I was sitting quietly listening to a group of women talk and laugh. They were having a good time and talking about seemingly nothing. Against the wall was another woman intently listening, but never joining in or responding. I thought it was odd, so I asked her why she wasn't joining in and her comment made me realize a lot of things. She said "I don't fit."
I asked her why she didn't fit. She told me that they all seemed so much smarter than her, and had quick comebacks or snappy quips and she just didn't feel anyone would want to listen to her say anything." Again I found myself asking WHY? And she said "Listen to them - I wouldn't know where to jump in or how to begin, besides I don't fit."
I stood by her and listened to the conversation and started my own sub-conversation with her regarding the conversation that was going on where she felt she did not FIT. After a while I gradually introduced her comments into the group and she was so shocked to see that the other women ACTUALLY listened to what she had to say, and AGREED. I looked down at her and said "Where don't you fit?" She smiled and then one of the other women asked HER a direct question and she gave an answer and then they said "Move over here you're too far away". When I left they were all talking - and she fit.
Sometimes we're not going to fit, we disagree with what is being said or can't find a way to communicate up to what you may think is a standard of commenting. It's a backwards way of thinking. If you have something to say - say it. Dont' worry if it's not as funny or clever or genious to what you're comparing it to, because a lot of times it's better to have MORE people commenting (than lurking)
I'm curious now, as to how many people who usually lurk and never leave a comment will be tempted to come out and say hello and find out that they too....FIT....just as much as any of us.
Belive me when you're a Star you dont' fit into a square hole or a round one either - but I like being different.
First time posters....come out and say hello. :wink: Your thoughts and comments are just as important as everyone elses. Doesn't matter if you have bad grammar, cant spell (have you seen our kids' homework?) We're just glad to have you here - a soft place to land and a nice place to fit. (or not :smile:)