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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 9416" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I think for me it helped immensely that at my jobs, the people around me were accepting and also energetic and work turned out to be "fun" It did not take long for my job to become "home" and I actually LIKED working TONS of hours, so much so that when not scheduled to work, I went there anyway. Really by then I only needed a "place to live" to take a shower and a nap......becuz my whole social life and my idea of recreation all got intertwined into my place of employment or school. I did not have "friends" outside of work, and LOL since I worked in a restaurant, i could eat right here, LOL. SO- instad of having days off and SPENDING money, LOL- I worked instead and MADE money.....</p><p>and that worked until I was almost 30 and met someone to marry.</p><p></p><p>Being out IN the world helped me grow and learn along the way. My boss, my coworkers, my peers- I wanted their acceptance and that helped me find an inner motivation and I guess I just kind of grew. The classes I took becuz they interested me personally eventually began to fall into place to eventually be useful towards a specific goal......and becuz I took classes that interested me, I was happy in those classes, and that facilitated my ability to follow thru. It also helped me do well in those classes and the continueing success helped me want to try a little bigger challenge eventually. I built on my small early progress ......and that all also helped me grow. and taking my classes that way helped me really see if the things I chose were really what I thought they were about. (I mean, I THOUGHT I would like being a realtor, but in reality the job itself turned out to be ..dull in my opinion for me) But by taking single classes here and there, I got to find out more about different things. </p><p>What I tell my BiPolar (BP) dtr now is find something that sounds interesting, check it out. see if it is a good match, volunteer in it.....</p><p>I have learned over time that successful people are not necessarily super smart. They also are not necessarily good with people-----I know a LOT of doctors whose bedside manner stinks. I know a lot of PhD people who know nothiing else besides what their degree is in. But if you find something that interests you and that you like.....even mood swings can kind of.....work into place and you can usually sorta make it work, anyway. </p><p></p><p>If you think about bosses you have had, or docs you have had......I bet you can think of negative things about some of them. I bet you could sit and think of some successful person who you would still describe as having mood swings, being a "lil dense" or always being irritable crabby or anal. LOL. </p><p>Maybe you could help your kid find what he LIKES and build from there?</p><p></p><p>LOL my sons eye surgeons and neuro docs and psychiatrists all tell us as daughter his last principal-----hey bud, OK you cannot read, you cannot write, and you lost your eye- BUT......you can talk, you can listen you can keyboard you are bright, you have a great sense of humor, and hey you can always drop off your laundry at the laundrymat and order groceries in and get a personal assistant.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 9416, member: 1697"] I think for me it helped immensely that at my jobs, the people around me were accepting and also energetic and work turned out to be "fun" It did not take long for my job to become "home" and I actually LIKED working TONS of hours, so much so that when not scheduled to work, I went there anyway. Really by then I only needed a "place to live" to take a shower and a nap......becuz my whole social life and my idea of recreation all got intertwined into my place of employment or school. I did not have "friends" outside of work, and LOL since I worked in a restaurant, i could eat right here, LOL. SO- instad of having days off and SPENDING money, LOL- I worked instead and MADE money..... and that worked until I was almost 30 and met someone to marry. Being out IN the world helped me grow and learn along the way. My boss, my coworkers, my peers- I wanted their acceptance and that helped me find an inner motivation and I guess I just kind of grew. The classes I took becuz they interested me personally eventually began to fall into place to eventually be useful towards a specific goal......and becuz I took classes that interested me, I was happy in those classes, and that facilitated my ability to follow thru. It also helped me do well in those classes and the continueing success helped me want to try a little bigger challenge eventually. I built on my small early progress ......and that all also helped me grow. and taking my classes that way helped me really see if the things I chose were really what I thought they were about. (I mean, I THOUGHT I would like being a realtor, but in reality the job itself turned out to be ..dull in my opinion for me) But by taking single classes here and there, I got to find out more about different things. What I tell my BiPolar (BP) dtr now is find something that sounds interesting, check it out. see if it is a good match, volunteer in it..... I have learned over time that successful people are not necessarily super smart. They also are not necessarily good with people-----I know a LOT of doctors whose bedside manner stinks. I know a lot of PhD people who know nothiing else besides what their degree is in. But if you find something that interests you and that you like.....even mood swings can kind of.....work into place and you can usually sorta make it work, anyway. If you think about bosses you have had, or docs you have had......I bet you can think of negative things about some of them. I bet you could sit and think of some successful person who you would still describe as having mood swings, being a "lil dense" or always being irritable crabby or anal. LOL. Maybe you could help your kid find what he LIKES and build from there? LOL my sons eye surgeons and neuro docs and psychiatrists all tell us as daughter his last principal-----hey bud, OK you cannot read, you cannot write, and you lost your eye- BUT......you can talk, you can listen you can keyboard you are bright, you have a great sense of humor, and hey you can always drop off your laundry at the laundrymat and order groceries in and get a personal assistant. [/QUOTE]
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