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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 727680" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I was happy to read that you're protecting your finances. Dot all the i's and cross all the t's, exactly as you would if a stranger were attempting to rent your home. That's a big shift I believe, when we put our own well being as the priority....and begin to think that way.....rather than abandon ourselves for our kids choices and behaviors. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I felt the same way. It is a learning curve for us parents to figure out how to parent our adult troubled kids.....it's a process.....you're moving thru it well newstart......(which doesn't mean it feels good.....)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This was tough for me too. The dream/vision I had for my daughter's life as she was growing up is nothing like how it turned out. One of the most difficult things for me was accepting that MY dream for her life was not going to materialize and I had to let it go. She's my only child, I had a lot invested in her success.....it took awhile for me to unravel my own expectations and desires and recognize that I was powerless to enact any change in another.....</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That was my experience too...... it helped so much to continue to write it down and get support for each step.....it offered me that strength as well......</p><p></p><p>Hang in there newstart....acknowledge how far you've come recently....celebrate your clarity and commitment to change, you're doing a stellar job in an extremely challenging situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 727680, member: 13542"] I was happy to read that you're protecting your finances. Dot all the i's and cross all the t's, exactly as you would if a stranger were attempting to rent your home. That's a big shift I believe, when we put our own well being as the priority....and begin to think that way.....rather than abandon ourselves for our kids choices and behaviors. I felt the same way. It is a learning curve for us parents to figure out how to parent our adult troubled kids.....it's a process.....you're moving thru it well newstart......(which doesn't mean it feels good.....) This was tough for me too. The dream/vision I had for my daughter's life as she was growing up is nothing like how it turned out. One of the most difficult things for me was accepting that MY dream for her life was not going to materialize and I had to let it go. She's my only child, I had a lot invested in her success.....it took awhile for me to unravel my own expectations and desires and recognize that I was powerless to enact any change in another..... That was my experience too...... it helped so much to continue to write it down and get support for each step.....it offered me that strength as well...... Hang in there newstart....acknowledge how far you've come recently....celebrate your clarity and commitment to change, you're doing a stellar job in an extremely challenging situation. [/QUOTE]
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