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Forget my glimmer....... Sheesh
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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 39560" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Maybe by saying, "...<em>if something would ever happen to him</em>", he is REALLY saying, "...<em>if it doesn't work out and I leave</em>"! Going to college, learning to drive, becoming self-sufficient ... these are all steps towards her independence. An abusive person would see these steps she's taking as a threat ... he will lose the "power and control" he wants to have over her. An educated, employed, independent woman wouldn't <em>need</em> an abusive loser like him and he knows it!</p><p></p><p>If she stood up to him recently, maybe the marriage proposal is his way of making sure he keeps her, that he has her "on reserve", that she doesn't meet someone else and move on. He knows she will meet new people when she goes to school and he's hoping that if they're engaged, she will not get to know other young men and compare the difference between them and him! </p><p></p><p>I have a niece just like this! Only in her case, she actually <em>married</em> the fool and nothing good has happened to her ever since! Her parents were always hoping that if she met just <em>one</em> really nice decent guy who treated her respectfully, she'd see the difference and kick "Bozo" to the curb - didn't happen!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 39560, member: 1883"] Maybe by saying, "...[i]if something would ever happen to him[/i]", he is REALLY saying, "...[i]if it doesn't work out and I leave[/i]"! Going to college, learning to drive, becoming self-sufficient ... these are all steps towards her independence. An abusive person would see these steps she's taking as a threat ... he will lose the "power and control" he wants to have over her. An educated, employed, independent woman wouldn't [i]need[/i] an abusive loser like him and he knows it! If she stood up to him recently, maybe the marriage proposal is his way of making sure he keeps her, that he has her "on reserve", that she doesn't meet someone else and move on. He knows she will meet new people when she goes to school and he's hoping that if they're engaged, she will not get to know other young men and compare the difference between them and him! I have a niece just like this! Only in her case, she actually [i]married[/i] the fool and nothing good has happened to her ever since! Her parents were always hoping that if she met just [i]one[/i] really nice decent guy who treated her respectfully, she'd see the difference and kick "Bozo" to the curb - didn't happen! [/QUOTE]
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