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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 656284" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>I'm so sorry Sadmom.</p><p>We've all been there and we all know exactly how much sadness this causes.</p><p>It doesn't mean that your son doesn't love you.</p><p>It just means that he's absorbed in his own stuff and his own disfunctional behaviour and he doesn't realise how much you are hurting.</p><p>Have you ever told him how you feel? How you worry? How you weep for him?</p><p>Often they have no idea.</p><p>But Sadmom, don't forget, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.</p><p>Even though that's what it feels like.</p><p></p><p>Don't assume that the woman with the flower delivery has some sort of perfect relationship with her kids. Nothing's what it seems. We often do that don't we? Compare our carcrash of a situation with some perceived notion of other people's perfect families. It's never accurate.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry Sadmom. </p><p>Do something nice for yourself.</p><p></p><p>You can't fix him. He has to fix himself. It's not your fault. It's life.</p><p>Acceptance and detachment.</p><p>It's not easy.</p><p>It's a route to peace though.</p><p>Peace and ... eventually... a way to smile.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 656284, member: 17650"] I'm so sorry Sadmom. We've all been there and we all know exactly how much sadness this causes. It doesn't mean that your son doesn't love you. It just means that he's absorbed in his own stuff and his own disfunctional behaviour and he doesn't realise how much you are hurting. Have you ever told him how you feel? How you worry? How you weep for him? Often they have no idea. But Sadmom, don't forget, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Even though that's what it feels like. Don't assume that the woman with the flower delivery has some sort of perfect relationship with her kids. Nothing's what it seems. We often do that don't we? Compare our carcrash of a situation with some perceived notion of other people's perfect families. It's never accurate. I'm sorry Sadmom. Do something nice for yourself. You can't fix him. He has to fix himself. It's not your fault. It's life. Acceptance and detachment. It's not easy. It's a route to peace though. Peace and ... eventually... a way to smile. [/QUOTE]
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