I am ready to share some of my resources because I feel t he pain of t hose parents who post here and are totally, partially or on-and-off estranged due to their adult children being not only troubled but rather cruel. There are many places to get support. I am posting but a couple. This is in my opinion the best one. http://estrangedstories.ning.com/ The other one I used is temporarily down. Read the stories. See your own story. They are all SO MUCH alike!!!! Hope you can find solace.