After all he's been through, you think he'd have learned. husband found it--actually, a nice looking glass sculpture like an abstract brown and black dragon--behind all of the TV gadgetry and old VCRs in an open cabinet under the TV. difficult child's girlfriend sat through the whole confrontation. We knew exactly which one of difficult child's friends it belonged to--the quiet one who plays the guitar, whose mom is an alcoholic and who lost custody. But husband made difficult child 'fess up. husband threatened to call the police because we had an illegal substance in the house (had this happened in Colo, it wouldn't have mattered, except for the age restriction). difficult child broke down and told him that his friend asked him to keep it while CPS went through the process of checking their house because of the custody issue. It's been 4 mo's. He told difficult child he wasn't "using" any more. This is the same kid who came up with-a plan to gather a list of homeowners who needed their grass cut, and never came up with-the $10 he needed for gas. difficult child thought he was helping him because his family life is in shambles and coming over to our house for dinner was the only normal thing he had. Apparently he doesn't eat all time. We pointed out that his step-father came over to use the neighbor's dock to go fishing and he has custody, so why isn't he feeding him? difficult child insisted that it's just that it's his homelife, and he needs a good example, like our family. His mom gives him the alcohol and pot. I responded that he didn't need to do it ... I came from a household like that and didn't do it. I told difficult child that the item in question was worth $10 and he could have sold it to a dealer and bought the gas. So it implied that he was going to use it again. Why did he need it back? And what kind of a friend is he to jeopardize their friendship in a household that's already been through this, not to mention to stolen items and court and PO and weeks of hassles with-urine tests. husband said that his friend is no longer welcome on our property. difficult child cried for a while, then said, "D will be happy (his girlfriend)," as he glanced over at her, "because she never liked him anyway." Mmm, not happy, but relieved, I'm sure. We left it up to difficult child to explain to his friend why he can't come over any more. Sigh.