hi thanks by the way for all the thoughts, support ideas while i go thru this fun here NOT LOL soooo its' you guys that put the lightbulb in my head. i got up at 5 a.m. and just laid in bed for hours thinking. than it hit me i had an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) guy on years ago he was part of our little difficult child team. yet we dropped him because other issues with-her were kicking up worse and we had to switch doctor's. so i remembered his name because i couldnt' access my paperwork from here. it's home. i looked him up on the web and got his number and left a message. i think him, along with-reg. therapist, family therapist and the other activities i lined up will help. she did eat breakfast today yet it took a very long time. she had scrambled eggs which should be easily consumed yet she juiced herself to death and i was very honest with her. i told her the truth, told her all i had lined up back home she seemed really happy with that, than i also stated heres the deal if you do not eat well over this weekend i will have no choice than to remain here. your friend that you've been hanging with will be leaving after her surgery so it'll just be me and you. suddenly she picked up the pace with-her toast and rest of scrambled eggs. we shall see.