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"Friends"...why is it so hard to get away from them?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638448" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lil, if my kid had called me to ask me to drive ANYONE to the shelter, I would have said "no" and nothing else. You don't have to explain it to us. As for these "friends"...they are a big problem for our kids when they are using. They are drug buddies and we know our adult children are ready to quit using drugs when they no longer want anything to do with them.</p><p></p><p>I understand your soft feeling for a child who lived in a bad home situation, but you can't fix him anymore than you can fix your son and it is probably dangerous to your son for you to stay so involved with him. The fact is, the people in the shelter (and the world) are going to expect your son to be able to handle J-1 on his own, without you. And he has to learn how also. "He makes me mad and I'll get kicked out of the shelter" is his own fault. He has got to learn how to take care of himself and take himself out of bad situations. Or he will learn why it's better not to hang around with people like J-1. Personally, I find it appalling that this kid would call you and ask you for money, but that's what difficult children do. They think somebody is a soft touch...anybody...and they ask for a free handout.</p><p></p><p>Lil, your son is a man now. You can not take care of him. If he would make better choices he would not have people after him. This is just my opinion and it's really none of my business either, but I would cut the emotional ties you have to J-1. He sounds like bit time trouble.</p><p></p><p>Hope you can calm down and be good to yourself tonight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638448, member: 1550"] Lil, if my kid had called me to ask me to drive ANYONE to the shelter, I would have said "no" and nothing else. You don't have to explain it to us. As for these "friends"...they are a big problem for our kids when they are using. They are drug buddies and we know our adult children are ready to quit using drugs when they no longer want anything to do with them. I understand your soft feeling for a child who lived in a bad home situation, but you can't fix him anymore than you can fix your son and it is probably dangerous to your son for you to stay so involved with him. The fact is, the people in the shelter (and the world) are going to expect your son to be able to handle J-1 on his own, without you. And he has to learn how also. "He makes me mad and I'll get kicked out of the shelter" is his own fault. He has got to learn how to take care of himself and take himself out of bad situations. Or he will learn why it's better not to hang around with people like J-1. Personally, I find it appalling that this kid would call you and ask you for money, but that's what difficult children do. They think somebody is a soft touch...anybody...and they ask for a free handout. Lil, your son is a man now. You can not take care of him. If he would make better choices he would not have people after him. This is just my opinion and it's really none of my business either, but I would cut the emotional ties you have to J-1. He sounds like bit time trouble. Hope you can calm down and be good to yourself tonight. [/QUOTE]
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