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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 728580" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>I will preface this by saying that I HATE and am phobic about having my picture taken. I am currently investigating whether or not I would be on safe legal grounds if I told my employer that I don't want to give them a picture for their online company directory. They did let me refuse to be honored on my landmark anniversary with a photo in the company newsletter; I also declined the offer to have an article put in about me as well.</p><p></p><p>With that said, I think that your friend is actually saying that she loves you no matter how you look and you should approach it from that point of view. I would ask to meet her for coffee and just be honest. Tell her that you really hate those photos and thinking about them being out there makes you sad. Tell her that you would be happy to take a photo with her when you feel like you look better, if that is the case.</p><p></p><p>I have a group of friends who like to take pics when we go out to dinner. The first time, I was so shocked that I didn't say anything. I am not on social media but I know those photos are out there and I want to never see them. After that, I practiced telling them no. At this point, I am the designated photographer and take pics of all of them on their phones one after the other. Years ago, another mom took a picture of me at a function after I said no. I didn't speak to her for three years, until she apologized. Another mom tried to take my picture at prom and I said I would break her camera. I tell these stories so you know I have genuine picture hating creds. You just have a temporary aversion and I would let your friend know that, in person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 728580, member: 3493"] I will preface this by saying that I HATE and am phobic about having my picture taken. I am currently investigating whether or not I would be on safe legal grounds if I told my employer that I don't want to give them a picture for their online company directory. They did let me refuse to be honored on my landmark anniversary with a photo in the company newsletter; I also declined the offer to have an article put in about me as well. With that said, I think that your friend is actually saying that she loves you no matter how you look and you should approach it from that point of view. I would ask to meet her for coffee and just be honest. Tell her that you really hate those photos and thinking about them being out there makes you sad. Tell her that you would be happy to take a photo with her when you feel like you look better, if that is the case. I have a group of friends who like to take pics when we go out to dinner. The first time, I was so shocked that I didn't say anything. I am not on social media but I know those photos are out there and I want to never see them. After that, I practiced telling them no. At this point, I am the designated photographer and take pics of all of them on their phones one after the other. Years ago, another mom took a picture of me at a function after I said no. I didn't speak to her for three years, until she apologized. Another mom tried to take my picture at prom and I said I would break her camera. I tell these stories so you know I have genuine picture hating creds. You just have a temporary aversion and I would let your friend know that, in person. [/QUOTE]
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